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i’ve never met my father and i’m seventeen-should i get in contact with him?

my mom was 18 and he was 19 and they weren’t seriously in love or anything, just casually dating. he didn’t want a baby and i totally understand, i mean he was a only freshman in college! but my mom has recently found a way to get in touch with him-she found his online blog! he is married now with two young sons of his own. should i get in touch with him? what if he didn’t want anything to do with me? but also, what if he did want to be a part of my life? what if his whole family did? i’m an only child with a super small family and i’ve always dreamed of a big, loving, and supportive family. i’m so curious about him and i want to meet him at some point for sure but i don’t know if now is the right time or when the right time would be. i guess i’m just afraid he wouldn’t want anything to do with me and i’m just so confused as to what to do.

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

He’s your father, which means he does have a certain amount of responsibility towards you. If you want to get in touch with him then go right ahead. If he doesn’t want anything to do with you then he’s a bit of a loser really, but his kids deserve to know they’ve got a half-sibling out there somewhere.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Yes, you should contact him, for your own sake if nothing else. It’s would be best to do it without having any expectations, but I realize that’s probably impossible.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 49 minutes after post)

You should totally get in touch with him! If you don’t, you’ll always regret having never tried…that is worse than disappointment to me. (: I’m sure it’ll be fine!

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