dating help: Guys, what signals can a girl give you which will definitely tell you she’s interested? - Help.com

There are a lot of things, but the better ones may depend on how old you guys are.

walk up and say “hi, my name is ***** *********. I am interested in you and would like to know if you were available to discuss that.”

calemus: that was lame

sir cody: we are in college.

You say that you are generally very busy. Well, if he does have an interest in you and he is helpful as you say prompt him to help you on a project that you already must work on. The guy sounds a bit like me… The best way to get him talking is to get him to talk about stuff that is necessary. If you two are working on something together he will have an excuse to talk to you. This may not sound like it makes sense for him to need an excuse for him to talk to you, but in his mind it may very well be the case. It is for me I know. Chatting and smiling are good, but only to indicate that you two are on good terms not that you have a possible romantic interest in him. If you want him to know that then try holding his eye contact a little longer than normal before saying anything. Also, saying stuff that lets him know that you look forward to seeing him again would be good. But if you want the advice that I would rather you heed it would be to make a valuable friend out of him before exploring the romantic end of it. People always act their best when they want to impress a guy or gal they are interested in. Get through all the fluff and become good friends that, if for some reason decided not to get romantic, would still be rather close. But, hey, that’s just my two cents.

The best romantic relationships are started by those that are already good friends. That is what I have seen at least.

Thanks for the invite Sir Cody.

Well, if you are very busy then you could talk with him about things you are a little busy about. AND see if he is also interested in you. In my opinion, it is very important for a girl to know if the feeling is mutual first before making an extra mile to let him know you are interested.

Very good point Ma’am. I took it for granted that he was already interested in her. It is imperative that you determine that he is interested in you. That may pose a problem as it sounds that if he is interested he may have trouble voicing it.

hey thanks for the advice (: but i left out alot of details abt my situation. some stuff happened over the holidays, and some stuff, recently when college term just started. and its not just me busy with college stuff and work, he is too. we are both pretty involved with activities in school, but different activties. and although we are in the same faculty, we dont happen to share the same classes cause we major in different things. so if i do bump into him, its totally by chance or its to do with activities in the arts fraternity, which we are both members of. so…although i have him on facebook, talking to him consistently or asking him for help is wayy too random. i dont really have to determine his interest…he IS interested or at least attracted..

so i was kinda like wondering in a situation like this, where we dont exactly have much time together, how is it possible to at least encrouage him, at least like.. to let him know i dont mind being his friend at least. cause ive been told ive been pretty cold to him.

my suggestion still stands.
the shortest distance between 2 points
honest blunt and sincere

if you don’t have the strength to do so, then this is good practice

I don’t know but i am not in too much liberated side where it’s easy to tell the guy that i like him or show too much that i am interested so i don’t think i could help too much in this area. Because at most times, i wait and let the guy do the job.

If i was in your shoes i would still do the usual thing like the smiling and all. If he does not do his part i would lose interest.

I wish you luck though.

hmm. i dont EVER tell guys im interested in that i like them..but i dont see anything wrong in being nice and friendly. well most guys arent exactly gonna do the chasing..how is he to know if ur interested or not if u dont drop hints.

but needless to say, i lose interet very fast… if a guy cant pick up on the hints, thats his loss.

thanks for the input though (:

Well yes being nice and friendly and i meant i can’t do anything more than that. ;)

well its the same here. asking the person out is.. just.. not my style ;) guess we are in the same boat then haha

What do you think of guys who do the chasing?

Hmmm. thats a good qn. you know i keep saying things like oh i love the guy to do EVERYTHING. he should be the one chasing and i should be the chased.. but guess what? when some guy chases, i run away. honestly. i just avoid and avoid and show alot of disinterest. but then again, those who have chased me dont seem to have any knowledge of appropriate social behaviour, they were the over-aggressive types who didnt check if the girl had any interest in him before going full-on haha. and it so happens the sorts who chased me were the ones i had very passionate dislike for. and it also happens that none of the decent guys who were interested in me over the years ever gave a proper chase…i doubt they were all gay, so it could be a really unapproachable vibe i give off. haha.

what are ur thoughts on the guy chasing?

I am not attracted to boys with bad characters and so far so good– i have attracted some men whom i also liked and so far they were of good taste adults. :) so i don’t have problems with those who tried to chase me.

Once someone did the chasing and it was an eewww state bec i did not even know him at all! :D

jasons wrote:
Hey,

Great post.

I have found another great post which give 20 ways you can tell if a girl is interested. I just read through them and realised that the girl I like is interested. So next time I see her, I’m asking her out. So I guess the answer is - any one of these signs!

Take a look -

http://georgeulysses.com/2009/09/28/2…

hey thanks it was a good article! i actually DO do a few things there, just not so precise
- i do look at the guy i like, but its discreetly and when he looks at me i look away quickly. if he’s seen me do it so many times he shouldknow im interested
- i tend to like to act busy in the line of vision of the guy too. thats to attract his attention.
- i usually am always crackin some joke with someone and laughing, but when he’s there i would look at him too.
- i usually am able to approach a guy whom the interest level is mutual to talk. i dont usually find that really nerve-wrecking or scary. and i talk more to ppl i like
- for me, proximity trumps all. if a person likes u, he/she would want to be ard you.

i seem to do all these, so why can’t they read it? =/ guys arent that dumb right.

but, i wouldnt go so much on the body language,esp physical contact. i know plenty of touchy girls who are very flirty with guys they dont have interest in. and then again there are girls like me who dont like to express interest via touching. :P