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My wife always blame me for her miseries…

I want to set her free…but then she cries and don’t want me to go…I want out but I feel sad seeing her cry like that.

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love_lost offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Your WIFE should NOT blame you for her miseries!! Shouldnt marage be a happy thing? I mean you married her to be happy with her….not miserable right? Maybe being apart for a few weeks would make things better….

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vivzofwale offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

have you ever talked seriously about WHY she feels this way? like a serious calm conversation with no distractions. not in a middle of a heated argument where everyone is prone to bad temper and shouting.

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babacup offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 14 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

It sounds like you love your wife. Have you tried anything to work out this problem? Sometimes leaving is an answer, but most the time, if two people love each other and they want the marriage to work, they can overcome any problem in the marriage.

What do you think is causing her misery?

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sweetiejay offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Fern Tree Gully, 07, AU | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

Is you or your wife in counselling? She could be suffering from a form of depression, and if so, she should seek medical help.

Don’t make any hasty decisions. You might need someone else to help you think things through.

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bisforbstin offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

What if I don’t want it to work anymore? What if deep inside, I’m also not happy but I just don’t show her because we have kids? What if I believe that i don’t love her and I just want to get out of this marriage?

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babacup offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 14 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

If you are not happy, and she is not happy, then it is not good for the kids. What have you tried to make turn this situation around?

I have a lot of questions, because there is a lot to a marriage. It is too easy to just say we are unhappy and divorce. It is harder to figure out why you are both unhappy and work at fixing it. That is what is best for everyone. But it has to be work on both sides. Yours and hers.

What do you think is causing the unhappiness? How long have you been feeling this way. Why did you marry your wife? How long have you been married? How old are your children?

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