Love help: Please help me, whats the ideal guy to a girl? - Help.com

you are already perfect for her because you love her so much.

You are who you are. If you have to pretend to be different for someone, that’s a sign that they’re just not right for you. If all you’re doing is pretending it’s not going to work out anyway.

there is no perfect guy, sometimes imperfections are great too, little things you disagree on keep things alive to discuss and argue, but not in a bad way. i think a perfect guy would be quite annoying, if it were even possible, which its not

Dorian wrote:
You are who you are. If you have to pretend to be different for someone, that’s a sign that they’re just not right for you. If all you’re doing is pretending it’s not going to work out anyway.

i had a lot of complications mess that up so i am going for everything to win her love over and so i can have more to give her.

Dorian wrote:
You are who you are. If you have to pretend to be different for someone, that’s a sign that they’re just not right for you. If all you’re doing is pretending it’s not going to work out anyway.

who said i wanted to fake? i said i want to be a better person. Look better, act better, be better, live better.

nikki777775 wrote:
there is no perfect guy, sometimes imperfections are great too, little things you disagree on keep things alive to discuss and argue, but not in a bad way. i think a perfect guy would be quite annoying, if it were even possible, which its not

Ive never argued with her except about my life which she hate and i just want to fix everything.

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Okay fine whatever. let me rephrase. What is the best looks, attitude, personality, abilities, lifestyle and so on all broken up then i will see how close i am already and if thers anything i can make better that i would still be comforatable doing and feel myself only better.

oh **** i accidently didnt anonymize that =_= greeeeeeaaaat now im going to get harrasssed again and get all suicidal :’(

You need to be who you are. That is what makes a person love you. If you try to be someone else to impress someone, it will turn out bad in the end.

Im not trying to be someone else, i already said that

every girl is unique (as is every guy). so each has her own ideals.

but just a reminder. people have certain formed ideals of who they want to fall in love with and be with for the rest of their lives. but when that person comes along, he/she finds they don’t fit into the ideal at all. after all, ideals are simply ideals. quite far from reality. :)

sum wrote:
Im not trying to be someone else, i already said that

then why get hung up on being the perfect guy, if she is gunna love you then it will be for who you are, not who want to be

I think as long as you persist and show that you’re always there for her, She’ll eventually turn around. Just make sure you stay solid and don’t falter when it seems like ur give so much yet receive nothing in return.

I know that but lets just say i was already messed over then how can i get her attention again after being rejected and somehow change things so she will give me a chance?

Because things got messed up really bad with lots of problems so im trying not to be a loser so i dont kill myself later :(

How did you mess up? Did you not give her her space?

fla wrote:
I think as long as you persist and show that you’re always there for her, She’ll eventually turn around. Just make sure you stay solid and don’t falter when it seems like ur give so much yet receive nothing in return.

she hasnt talked to me so thats a problem

fla wrote:
How did you mess up? Did you not give her her space?

i have several posts about it =/ very complicated but lets just call it unfortunate ircumstances to simplify things so this doesnt go the same bad direction as my last post asking for help where what i got too much of was being told to give up :(

sum wrote:
Im not trying to be someone else, i already said that

it hadn’t posted when I made my reply. Sorry.

So lets see, you want to be a better person. Since I do not know you, it would be hard to say what you need to do to better yourself.

Some things I like in my husband is that he is Strong minded and has his own opinions and sticks up for what he believes in. He has a good sense of humor, but that is just something you have, I do not think you can develop that. He is creative. He dresses in comfortable clothes that are not stylish, and doesn’t care what people think about his appearance. He is confident in who is. I guess that would be the big on. Be confident in who you are as a person.

Ive got most the other things except confidence which was taken away from me…. but thanks

I was looking at an old post of yours. Is this the same girl you were talking about 4 months ago?

yes :( things move very slowly in acomplishing things for me and nothing much i have changed yet, just a little

im really not in the mood to get depressed today =(

i should have kept this anonymous because i would get put down for being slow and told to give up but i missed the button :(

i have some things to do so im logging off for now

There is nothing wrong with taking things slow. You can’t better yourself over night, it does take time. I think the biggest thing you need to do is get control of this depression. Once you accomplish that, the rest of this will come naturally. I have depression, so I know it takes work, I know that once you have it under control, life gets amazingly better. I know you are not wanted to talk about it right now, but please feel free to give me a shout if you want to talk about it later. Oh before you log off go listen to LazeDaze post on the main page. It might help give you a lift this morning. I know it did me.

http://help.com/post/308183-for-every… here’s that post : )

Okay thanks…. im not as depressed as I used to be because for some reason it went away partially but i still freak out every once in a while if certain things are said to me and i get suicidal.

I can talk ….. not sure what to say though considering im sure ive posted all my problems in the form of posts on this site both under my profile and anonymously where you cant see them there >.>