why do you have to let him go?
As much as I like him, and I REALLY do, he’s the best thing to come to me in a long time. We had a great time together. But whenever we went out together with my friends, usually, he would just close up and act so immaturely. He acted like a baby constantly, asking for advice for everything and not being able to fend for himself. He’d pout if things didn’t go his way, and I was sick of being someone’s Mom.
Plus it was a summer romance of sorts, school is starting and I’m taking a heavy load, 19 credits. He lives an hour away.
Maybe you should stress to him somehow different then you have on how you truly feel. Maybe you are not in love with this guy and we all know these situations are rough to see someone hurt but if its for the best then it has to be like that.
I mean like, why can’t you guys still be friends?
Let me go!
If you love me let me go
All my pain you’ll never know
Fallen here, I can not rise
Your love it was, my demise
If you love me let me go
This heart is dead, it will not grow
Keep those words, now to yourself
I’ll keep my heart upon a shelf
If you love me let me go
As we pass, put on a show
Please don’t hurt me any more
Can’t you see, my soul is sore
If you love me let me go…
Yea, I think you’re right. I dunno, he even begged me to tell him where he went wrong, and I told him that his maturity was a huge issue. But he thinks that there is hope he can man up over time and get back together with me.
Singer_scarlett: Being friends was just a way for us to drag things out further, it kind of hurt him a lot, and he kept trying to touch me when I didn’t want to be touched.
Eddieee: Very nice, my feelings exactly.
anongirl wrote:
Singer_scarlett: Being friends was just a way for us to drag things out further, it kind of hurt him a lot, and he kept trying to touch me when I didn’t want to be touched.
Eddieee: Very nice, my feelings exactly.
Oh, I get it, maybe you should just minimize contact with him for a while so that he can get over you and what not.
hmmmmm i say give him another chance later down the road ..keep the friendship and try again christmas break or next summer…time heals things.
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2 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)
anongirl wrote:
Yea, I think you’re right. I dunno, he even begged me to tell him where he went wrong, and I told him that his maturity was a huge issue. But he thinks that there is hope he can man up over time and get back together with me.
I find the irony of this to be rather humoerous.
He thinks he will “man up over time”, yet he is so blinded that he can’t even see that the first step to manning up is letting go. Only after he lets go can he really start growing up. It’s almost like a child clinging to his mother…
Anonymous wrote:
anongirl wrote:
Yea, I think you’re right. I dunno, he even begged me to tell him where he went wrong, and I told him that his maturity was a huge issue. But he thinks that there is hope he can man up over time and get back together with me.
I find the irony of this to be rather humoerous.
He thinks he will “man up over time”, yet he is so blinded that he can’t even see that the first step to manning up is letting go. Only after he lets go can he really start growing up. It’s almost like a child clinging to his mother…
Wow, never thought of it that way, but yea, I agree, thank you. I wish I knew how to tell that to him though.
Singer_scarlett: I’m trying, but its a cycle of never-ending e-mails. Haha, we’re doing the old here’s-your-stuff-back-and-I’ll-take-the-china-plates-dance, just divvying up the goods that we gave and received and want returned. But after that’s over with, I think contact will be over with, and I think everything will be fine.
SayItsSo: hm, I dunno, people don’t change that quickly…
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2 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)
anongirl wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
anongirl wrote:
Yea, I think you’re right. I dunno, he even begged me to tell him where he went wrong, and I told him that his maturity was a huge issue. But he thinks that there is hope he can man up over time and get back together with me.
I find the irony of this to be rather humoerous.
He thinks he will “man up over time”, yet he is so blinded that he can’t even see that the first step to manning up is letting go. Only after he lets go can he really start growing up. It’s almost like a child clinging to his mother…
Wow, never thought of it that way, but yea, I agree, thank you. I wish I knew how to tell that to him though.
Just say it word-for-word. The first step to maturing is accepting your loss and moving on. A wise man analyzes the choices he has and makes the one that is best for him. A foolish man complains about the choices he doesn’t have and ends up doing nothing. In this case, the best choice of action for both of you would be for him to accept his loss. Only then can he move on.
Well, thank you so much, everyone, I GREATLY appreciate it! I’m glad I decided to post now. You don’t always get a good response on this site, but everyone had really helpful and insightful things to say.
You could get him a little necklace that says WWAMD? (What Would A Man Do?)
hee hee hee…
I think you’re doing the right thing, FWIW. It is VERY difficult to put someone on the right track emotionally when you’re one of the things they’re screwed up about, especially when you’ve got your own life to worry about.
If you want to get the message across to him, the next time he sends you e-mail, reply with one sentence: The kind of man I want would not have written this e-mail.
Anonymous: Thank you, you’re right, I do need to be straight with him and not take no for an answer this time. It’s only for the best.
roenmcgloan: Ha, yea…
“The kind of man I want would not have written this e-mail” - totally agree with you there, if he was man enough, he wouldn’t even have to.
WWAMD HAHAHAHAHAHA that is the greatest thing I have heard for awhile now. What would a man do? HAHAHAHAHA
WELL
Honestly the decision is up to you. You could give him another chance or you yourself could move on and decide that perhaps out of the 7 billion people inhabiting this earth you could find maybe another person that can make you more than happy.
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anongirl wrote:
Singer_scarlett: I’m trying, but its a cycle of never-ending e-mails. Haha, we’re doing the old here’s-your-stuff-back-and-I’ll-take-the-china-plates-dance, just divvying up the goods that we gave and received and want returned. But after that’s over with, I think contact will be over with, and I think everything will be fine.
Yeah. “In the end, everything is ok. If it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.”
How are things progressing so far? Has he backed off?
Um, he just stopped sending me e-mails about a week or two ago. He said he would come to my house and I was NOT ok with that! So I sent him a final e-mail in which I made it clear that I would get the police involved if he tried to contact me again. It’s really sad it had to come to that, but I’m glad it’s over.
Thank you so much for asking though! That was really thoughtful of you. I’d be glad to help you if you have ny problems in the future.
Just glad it all worked out :)
Sad that it took all that, but you did the right thing.
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