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My mother wants to emancipate me?

[Allow me to preface this by saying that I am currently 15 years old, and will be turning 16 in a few weeks, I live in California, I have wonderful relationships with both of my parents, I have never been abused/gone hungry, I do not want to get married/join the army/whatever, and I do not have a baby. I also wash the family’s laundry, cook meals, and clean the house.]

My mother wishes to have me emancipated so that in case ‘anything should happen to her’ before I turn 18, that I would be able to act as her proper trustee and that I wouldn’t require a guardian. She feels that I’m mature and responsible enough for this to happen, and that my father would consent to this as well. She states that they will continue to provide for me after my emancipation.

However, I’m not sure if this is possible for a few reasons:

1. I have never had a job (and needless to say do not have a reliable source of income.)
2. I have never paid bills, nor do I know how to (though I am more than capable of learning to do so.)
3. I do not wish to live apart from my parents, and even if I did– I do not have a place of my own to live. (Apparently this is required? Am I wrong?)
4. I do not believe this to be a completely valid reason for emancipation?

The reason why I’m asking here is because I’m slightly confused in regard to the emancipation laws. Also, most other sources of advice on this matter deal with minors who come from abusive homes, or simply wish to be emancipated so that they can live away from their parents. (In my case it’s more of wanting to be seen/treated as an adult in legal situations, should they arise in the next two years.)

Well, hopefully I made at least a little bit of sense. So should I agree to get emancipated, or simply tell my mother to wait the two years until I turn 18? Can anyone help?

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Anonymous #
2 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

sorry to sound utterly stupid but emancipated?
what does it mean?

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I’d be asking what she thinks may happen to her in the time it takes for you to turn 18.

To be honest I have never heard of such a thing, emancipating a teenager, unless there was a case of abuse etc etc.

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2 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

To be emancipated (in this context) means that the minor would be legally treated as an adult, and would be able to (among other things) choose where they live, have to provide for themselves (parents are no longer legally bound to provide for the child), no longer require parental consent for marriage, etc etc.

If you want to look this up properly, simply enter a search for “the emancipation of minors law” or something along those lines. :v

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

wow big thing then maybe you need to discuss with your parents that although they think you are mature enough to take on this responsibility you may not feel that way.it seems like a lot of weight is bieng put on your shoulders.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

DON’T do it your entitled to a childhood and if something does happen to your mother, i know you might want to take care of her. But this will starve you from a childhood. Don’t do it, i was emancipated at the age of 16, i regret it every single minute of the day. I got married at that age, and divorced 7 months after, Kinda because you can’t get a divorce at all until your the age of 18 :| funny huh. Don’t do it, that means if you and your mom do get into a fight or anything like this, she can kick you out. :| end of story. I would say don’t do it.!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

I was going to emancipate myself because i couldnt stand living with my father and i did want to live with my mother. Its very legit but can i ask why they want you to? Im guessing your mother has an illness that might make problems? Because i dont see why both you have to if your father is there to take care of you if anything happened to you.

Usually parents will dis-own their kids or kids will emancipate themselves so its weriod they want you to emancipate yourself with their consent.

Going just by what your parents are saying. You shouldnt have any problems, unless they really are expecting you to move out. I dont believe moving out has to be involved but then again i think you need to be able to prove you can support yourself.

Wow im really sorry. The more i write the more i get confused! lol… i work for an attorney but this is a kind of new subject.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

Just a small thanks for everyone’s replies!

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

willard: my mother has no illness, aside from ailments that are common among women her age (she is in her early fifties.) Though she has told me that she does not trust my father with her legal affairs, for he does not make wise decisions in regards to money nor does he exert much caution with the people he surrounds himself with.

I believe her main motivation for this is that our family has been subject to severe stalking and predation by our extended relatives, and she simply wants to have her matters in order as soon as possible in case their actions were to turn violent against her. So perhaps the entire emancipation matter is merely an emergency legal fallback? LOL I’m not much more confident myself.

But no, I don’t think that they want me to move out.

Thanks for your help!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 41 minutes after post)

OK yeah it just sounds like she trust you more then any one around her. You should be very happy about that! She trusts you a great deal. I dont think the emancipation thing would be a bad thing especially if she doesnt trust anyone else. So other then you not thinking your an adult, you would still be what she needs.

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