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I’ve been dating this guy for while and lately I’ve

noticed that when he’s extremely stressed out or feeling any stress at all he either doesn’t talk to me or this “other” person comes out and talks to me.Different voice, different mannerisms, hateful and mean. Says things like “you are a source of stress and conflict for him, you’re making it so easy for me to take over, and you and him are not going to be together bc I won’t allow it to get that far” and things similar to that to hurt me. My bf doesn’t remember or saying these things or texting them. The first time this happened I told him about it and my bf says to me that the other one lies alot so don’t believe him which makes me wonder what the hell I’m dealing with. I know that my bf was physically and emotionally abused by his mother while growing up and sexually abused by another female that was his babysitter while he was young. I know this “other” one hates my bf’s mother and females in general but will tell me things that I’m doing wrong but at the same time tell me what to do to make “him” go away and leave my bf alone. I don’t know what to do. I’m confused and I don’t know if my boyfriend is playing or if this is real and if so how serious is the mental illness and what should I do? Any other time my bf is loving and amazing and wonderful and I know he loves me as I love him. I just don’t know what to think or do about this other one. SO any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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2 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

why are you writing about me?

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I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year. I’ve noticed that when he’s extremely stressed out or feeling any stress at all he either doesn’t call or text me or this “other” person comes out. He has a name but I prefer not to use it. Different voice, different mannerisms, hateful and mean. Says things like “you are a source of stress and conflict for him, you’re making it so easy for me to take over and I’m almost there, and you and him are not going to be together bc I won’t allow it to get that far” and things similar to that to hurt me. My bf doesn’t remember or claims he doesn’t remember saying these things or texting them. The first time this happened I told him about it and my bf says to me that the other one lies alot so don’t believe him which makes me wonder what the hell I’m dealing with. I know that my bf was physically and emotionally abused by his mother while growing up and sexually abused by another female that was his babysitter while he was young. I know this “other” one hates my bf’s mother and females in general but will tell me things that I’m doing wrong but at the same time tell me what to do to make “him” go away and leave my bf alone. I don’t know what to do. I’m confused and I don’t know if my boyfriend is playing or if this is real and if so how serious is the mental illness and what should I do? Any other time my bf is loving and amazing and wonderful and I know he loves me as I love him. I just don’t know what to think or do about this other one. SO any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

if you genuinly love him, try to get him to seek professional help! if you arent that into him just get rid him, not worth the hassle!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

This is one of those things where only professional help will actually help. MPs without a doc to answer questions is just to much work.

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