I’m 21 years old and my fiance is 20 years old.
I would like to know why she won’t move in with me. She never gives me a real answer about why she doesn’t so maybe someone can explain to me what might be the reason. We’ve known each other since the 1st grade and started dating in 8th grade and been together since. We rarely argue or disagree, and she spends some weekends with me sometimes at my house.
It’s mostly been just her and her mother living together after 2 divorces. She’s a military child for as long as I can remember and always have been moving around. For example she was in Alaska for about two years, and then her mother was called to Iraq. So she had to move to North Carolina where her father and his new wife lived. Unfortunately his new wife and my fiance had it out and she was kicked out to go live with her ex-stepdad in Columbus,GA. Lucky for me I live in Atlanta and the long distance relationship was over somewhat over. So she’s been there for about 2 years and during that time I proposed and she said yes. Now her ex-stepdad got a new job in New Orleans and she has no where to go but a friend of the family house across the street. This is bad because even though she’s grown she has no freedom.
Now during all this, I’ve always asked her why don’t you just move in with me, I’m your fiance and I can provide a stable place for you to live. She always said that should couldn’t and I don’t understand why. I gave her a key just incase she up and decided one day. Wishful thinking right?
Now her mother is coming back but going back to Alaska, and wants her to come, and she’s going. I’ve asked some friends about this situation and some who went through something similiar. I’ve got answers like; “She might be scared, She obediant to her mother, and She might be hiding something”. what should i do to convince her that everything will be alright if she just lived with me?
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