I am talking to a very good friend that I have a romantic interest in and she doesn’t feel the same way about me. I am ok with it, but it is a little frustrating. Her family is like another family to me, but still. Eh, it isn’t really anything to complain about.
how would us complaining make you feel better?
Sir Cody † wrote:
I am talking to a very good friend that I have a romantic interest in and she doesn’t feel the same way about me. I am ok with it, but it is a little frustrating. Her family is like another family to me, but still. Eh, it isn’t really anything to complain about.
Oh man, that’s not good. You should leave that relationship as is, and start to approach/meet other people. After that you can judge whether you really have a romantic interest in the girl or not. If you do, ask yourself “what is my end goal in this relationship?” realistically (i.e. get married and have kids, “hit that”, get to know her more, etc)
If you can determine exactly what you want from a relationship (not just “see how it goes”) then you’ll be better able to express yourself when you approach her.
ɦɕąŧƕƩƦ wrote:
how would us complaining make you feel better?
A caveat of human nature, seeing others in a worse situation makes me feel better.
Sir Cody † wrote:
What is bothering you?
I was pretty frustrated with a class I was taking and other things… Advil and sleep helped a bit though…
I’m also frustrated with my seemingly loss of patience ??? I need to deal with stressful situations better.
wildprimate wrote:
Sir Cody † wrote:
I am talking to a very good friend that I have a romantic interest in and she doesn’t feel the same way about me. I am ok with it, but it is a little frustrating. Her family is like another family to me, but still. Eh, it isn’t really anything to complain about.
Oh man, that’s not good. You should leave that relationship as is, and start to approach/meet other people. After that you can judge whether you really have a romantic interest in the girl or not. If you do, ask yourself “what is my end goal in this relationship?” realistically (i.e. get married and have kids, “hit that”, get to know her more, etc)
If you can determine exactly what you want from a relationship (not just “see how it goes”) then you’ll be better able to express yourself when you approach her.
Oh, don’t worry about me. I will be just fine. As far as relationships go I am very serious about them. She knows this and that may be one of the reasons she does not want to go down that route with me. She knows that if I were to ask a girl out I would have to think that she might make a good wife a mother down the road. That sort of thing. There are other things one in particular that would have prompted her to shy away from a relationship with me. The main one being if emotions rise to a certain extent then I cease to show them. It is a very low extent as well. Evidently, I find it easier to just shut down that portion of me to deal with the problem or emotion before getting showy with how I feel. I understand that women have a need to communicate as well as other things. That is just the way things are right now though. Thanks for listening. But like I said earlier; what is bothering you?
Come on! Cut loose! (in a good way) Go have fun or something! Be outgoing! Just because you haven’t acted in a certain way before does not make you a “poser” or “fake” or anything! If you actively choose to act a certain way, it’s still you! So try some thing different, approach someone with the sole purpose of meeting a interesting person.
Sir Cody † wrote:
wildprimate wrote:
Sir Cody † wrote:
I am talking to a very good friend that I have a romantic interest in and she doesn’t feel the same way about me. I am ok with it, but it is a little frustrating. Her family is like another family to me, but still. Eh, it isn’t really anything to complain about.
Oh man, that’s not good. You should leave that relationship as is, and start to approach/meet other people. After that you can judge whether you really have a romantic interest in the girl or not. If you do, ask yourself “what is my end goal in this relationship?” realistically (i.e. get married and have kids, “hit that”, get to know her more, etc)
If you can determine exactly what you want from a relationship (not just “see how it goes”) then you’ll be better able to express yourself when you approach her.
Oh, don’t worry about me. I will be just fine. As far as relationships go I am very serious about them. She knows this and that may be one of the reasons she does not want to go down that route with me. She knows that if I were to ask a girl out I would have to think that she might make a good wife a mother down the road. That sort of thing. There are other things one in particular that would have prompted her to shy away from a relationship with me. The main one being if emotions rise to a certain extent then I cease to show them. It is a very low extent as well. Evidently, I find it easier to just shut down that portion of me to deal with the problem or emotion before getting showy with how I feel. I understand that women have a need to communicate as well as other things. That is just the way things are right now though. Thanks for listening. But like I said earlier; what is bothering you?
wildprimate wrote:
Sir Cody † wrote:
What is bothering you?
I was pretty frustrated with a class I was taking and other things… Advil and sleep helped a bit though…
I’m also frustrated with my seemingly loss of patience ??? I need to deal with stressful situations better.
What sort of class is it? Don’t you just hate when your patience runs thin; it always does when you need it most.
Introductory electrical engineering class, we go pretty fast in class, that’s not problem, except that instead of a textbook we have one of the professors’ lecture notes, which don’t really explain what’s going on…
But I went to office hours this morning, and 20 minutes later I was happy.
This girl i went out with a couple times turned out to be a lesbian. However now i’m going out with this hot German girl who has this really sexy accent. so i guess good can come out of bad (i wouldn’t be dating this German girl if my other relationship worked out is what i mean by that).
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wildprimate wrote:
what?
I was going out with this girl. But it turns out she’s a lesbian, and we ended up breaking up. that’s what i have to complain about, as you asked what we responders had to complain about, then i explained how i am now going out with this German girl.
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Avery wrote:
wildprimate wrote:
what?
I was going out with this girl. But it turns out she’s a lesbian, and we ended up breaking up. that’s what i have to complain about, as you asked what we responders had to complain about, then i explained how i am now going out with this German girl.
wildprimate wrote:
no stupid **** please.
but that’s not stupid (bleep). it’s a very serious ordeal that i had and it was pretty rough.
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Avery wrote:
but that’s not stupid (bleep). it’s a very serious ordeal that i had and it was pretty rough.
you missed the point…
you missed the point…[/quote]
I do that a lot.
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Sir Cody †
[think peace]
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