Love help: So it has been 6 months since my ex and I broke up.

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So it has been 6 months since my ex and I broke up.

We were together for four years and it has been very difficult to move on but have been doing the best I can. I took all the necessary steps in doing so. I’ve been hanging out with friends, getting in touch with old ones and also have been going out whenever the opportunity presents itself. I have even dated a few guys since but haven’t had much of a connection with anyone. Just recently I have started talking to my ex again and we have decided to be friends. So far it has just been casual conversation, nothing to indicate that he still has feelings for me.
But I still have strong feelings for him and it has taken me till now to realize how bad it was. I’m definitely not over my ex in fact I’m still very much in love with him and now that we are talking again I don’t know what to do. I can’t go back now and tell him we shouldn’t be friends because then he will want an explanation that I’m not willing to share. Anyways I have no clue what I have gotten myself into. I need help!

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Dorian 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Just tell him you don’t think you’re ready yet to just be friends with him. You were together for four years - he can’t expect you to get over it completely in six months.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Thanks I appreciate the advice!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I totally Agree.. Let him know being just friends is way harder than you realized!
Of course he still cares about you or he wouldn’t want to be friends.. not meaning that he Wants anything more but He did and Does care about you so he will want what is best for you and that will mean giving you the space you need.. If he has stronger feelings than that.. it will give him the opportunity to share.. But be forwarned.. People who split and get back togeather.. statistically don’t last

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Hate to be harsh but it’s over!! you still like him if he felt the same sounds like you kids would still be together. wounds only heal if there left well alone (i know ive been there)you’ll find the right guy sometime if I was you write a list of ten things you really want to do or achieve on the next year focus on them it will make you happy and stronger.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Well the problem is…it was my idea to be friends. I didn’t know I still had such strong feelings for him until we started talking again. He tried to befriend me a while back but I said no…thought I was ready and I guess not.

Dorian 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (12 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Well then you made a mistake - it happens to the best of us. Just be honest with him :)

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