relationship help: Alrighty.

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Alrighty.

Here’s my first post. I’m in a relationship and have been for 4 years. I knew going into the relationship that my boyfriend did cocaine. I pursued the relationship anyway and we’re in love. This is a guy that I could see spending the rest of my life with and honestly the only and I mean only problem is his cocaine usage. He’s a lot better about it then when we first started dating, but it’s still there and it affects his personality in a horrible way. If he is using he’s amazing and responsive and loving and when he’s not, especially the day after, he’s a different person. He still loves me but snaps at the most ridiculous things and I never know who I’m going to get when we wake up in the morning. It’s starting to take a toll on me and he knows it. I’m exhausted. Things aren’t bad but I feel like I need to do something to save my sanity. Help.

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vivzofwale 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

why is he not getting professional help?

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (12 minutes after post)

well. If I bring that up it’s like all hell has broken loose. He’s been in outpatient rehab a couple times according to him and it didn’t work. obviously. He’s very stubborn about the fact that he has a problem. All he can say is he can do it himself. He doesn’t need “professional” help. I feel so stuck.

vivzofwale 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

i think you will be ’stuck’ there for as long as he’s not getting the help he needed and deserved. :) how about his family? what’s their take on the matter? maybe an intervention is needed asap..

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (27 minutes after post)

His family is a dead end. I’ve tried talking to his parents and that was not good. His dad went away for cocaine use while he was a child and his mom is an alcoholic as far as I’m concerned. The most emotional I’ve ever seen him get was when I told him I was going to nar anon meetings. So upset. I wish I could count on his parents. A couple of his friends have talked to him, but then he just stopped talking to them. As far as support goes I’m all he’s got. Which is exhausting. I wish I had all the money in the world and I could just send him….

vivzofwale 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

wow that’s tough. :( aren’t there any free therapy in your state? how about Church support, would you consider that?

i hope the best for you.. maybe you can talk to him on a good ‘mood’, you know? talk seriously with him and tell him how worried you are. maybe he’ll promise to listen and do something about it.

best of luck! stay strong…

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

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