Family help: I have a 15 year old boy who after a traumatic year of binge drinking and smoking pot has smashed my family to bits.

kriss

I have a 15 year old boy who after a traumatic year of binge drinking and smoking pot has smashed my family to bits.

he has verbally abused his dad and i, stolen from us and recked my home. He has now gone to live in residential care for a short time but i feel so detatched from him. he is very angry at everyone and i can’t seem to reach him. I obviously want him home again but feel that his expectations of life are totally unreal. he still expects to be able to carry on the reckless life he has started leading, wants to carry on drinking all the time and getting stoned. I am at a loss to how to bring him back to us. so i can have my son back. i know he will leave home eventually i just wasn’t ready for it to happen now.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (7 hours, 42 minutes after post)

It may be just part of him growing up and testing his boundaries. All you can do is show a good example and be there for him. The rehab center that he is in will help him some. Call him when you can, write to him when you can to show him that you love him.

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Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 11 months ago (9 hours, 1 minute after post)

always be there for him, even if he doesn’t show it, he still loves you. guys are like that. this is the time when he needs you the most

Help me with: okay, i’ve had this guy friend for awhile.

shoeikum 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (6 days, 16 hours after post)

Im sorry for you situation. I am an alcoholic daughter. You can not force him to get sober. my mom sure has tried. Forcing treatment on someone who is not ready will not work. The first time I went to treatment, (been 3xs), I was court ordered, It was better than jail so I played the game. Got out and was drunk 3days later. On a positive note, I will agree that you should never give up on you child. Sometimes you may have to tell him you cant deal with him right now, but dont give up. My sponser tells me, “as long as you or them is still breathing, there is still hope.” My sponser went to treatment 2x and her husband 7x. everyone is different. It may take more than once,but always love him. He loves you, even when he is angery. Hang in there and know that you are not alone.

Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 10 months ago (2 weeks, 5 days after post)

if you force treatment, that will only make him repel more, just be their for him.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

Just be there for him- BUT be consistent in discipline. I had the same problem and he is no longer with me, he passes away a year ago. I see so many things that I wished I had done different, but also be sure that he doesnt have some depression or bipolar issues going on. I will pray for you and your family

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 month after post)

hey i am 14 and i am basically the same way. just start doing stuff with him more. i started all kinds of stuff after my step mom moved in. it could be that you did something to him or somthing that you did period that just made him want to rebel. thats why i started drinking and smoking and stuff like that. the peer pressure deffinetely comes in around 14 and 15. so good luck it is really hard to change a kid after he has started all of those things.

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kriss 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

THanks to all that replied. I have taken some of your advice and put it into practice. i have detatched myself a little from it and i can be more rational instead of too emotional. x x

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 month, 4 weeks after post)

to be honest he sounds like a little (****) maybe going into care for a while may home in on him and he might realise how seriuos this really is! you can only hope!

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