Love help: I can’t stop crying.

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I can’t stop crying.

My flatmate has left to visit home this weekend and i can’t stop crying. It’s not been triggered by anything, no music or film. I feel like i’ve got no hope, that the things i wanted in life have slipped away and i will never be able to get them. I’m faced with this bleak future of working two jobs just to make the rent.
I don’t know what to do. All the things that give me joy seem so empty. I can’t talk to my friends about it, they think i’ve finally got my act together.
I am so fed up of making do with second hand, broken stuff. Yes i’m grateful for what i have, but sometimes i want something more than just ok.
I would love to be loved, i’m fed up of friends confiding in me about their love lifes. I am the wrong person to talk to about how many men love you.
I want to scream into the abyss, get it out of my system, but i can’t.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

you’re very likely to be suffering from Depression, hon. I would suggest you write all your feelings down, and make an appointment to see your GP. You can talk through options about what is available out there to help you. Remember to tell yourself that the way you’re feeling today, right now, won’t last forever. It will get better, I promise you. But only if you do something about the way you’re feeling. Book that appointment, and start to change things. You live once; start living now.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

I live, i go out, i do things, but i feel like i’m constantly in the shadow of others, the beautiful friend, the funny friend, the over achieving sibling… I am beginning to face my future, and i don’t like what i see.
At the age of 26 i have never had a relationship and every man i’ve asked out has turned me down. I can never quite put in to words how much it hurts that i have never been told i am beautiful by a man. Even more than that, that no one has ever looked past the service and has liked what they’ve found. No one wants to get to know me better.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

saroar8 - from reading your post, you don’t love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, or even like yourself, why would anyone else? You need to take a look at yourself, and think what are the qualities in me that I value? Am I loyal? generous? kind? thoughtful? funny? intelligent? do i have nice hair, eyes, smile, etc etc? Take a break. Go away for a few days on your own, and really think about what you want from life. If you are looking for a relationship, you will get one. Men are pretty much only attracted (even subconsciously) to confidence. You need to gain this, and you’ll only do that by starting to like (and then love) yourself. Give yourself a break, a shake up, a bit of a transformation and you’ll feel so much better.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

Thank you, i do try, and i had got much better, i had a stage a few years ago where i was seriously worried about my mental health, but i moved out, got a new job and started to feel positive about life, that’s why this new bout of negative emotion has come as a shock, it has had no real trigger.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 hours, 6 minutes after post)

If you need to scream, then do it, as loud as you can, whenever you can. That and find an outlet, read, or workout, or something you enjoy. Also, believe me, what you want to do, do it. There is no such thing as missing the window, or having no time to do it. The best things in this world, the things worth having and living, have no time limit. Remember that and get ready to get what you want, what you need.

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