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I’m a guy and I’ve just turned 18 during the summer!

I really hate my life at the moment I’m really upset I can’t sleep I cry every day I’m also over eating! The problem started when I was around 12 my brother sexually abused me and beat me! This lasted until I was around 13! I had no idea what he was doing at the time. When I was around 15 I noticed I was sexually attracted to guys! I hate this and still do! My parents think that being gay is a choice and theu would kick me out of home if I was! I hate my brother and I wish he was dead He ruined my liife! I’m at a point now that I just want to die! Any advice on what I should do? Sorry for my poor grammer!

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alisonrbtl offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Do you think that you could/should start by getting help for what your brother did to you, this must have been very hard for you? and I could completely understand if this was still difficult for you. Do you think you could talk to your parents about this? You wouldn’t necessarily have to tell them everything all at once if this was uncomfortable but could just start by opening up? It must be quite difficult to have this hidden between you? and not have their support in this? Of course you know the situation best though and if you can’t talk to them now/at all? then it may well help to contact a help line.
Regarding your sexuality maybe this is built on experience although bad and may change as you confront issues or let it go? if not though it certainly isn’t the end of the world being gay, maybe your parents would be more understanding if you found a way in time to explain? but to live a life which isn’t being true to yourself or living a lie may well be far worse than what your parents may express.
I’d say it may be best to start dealing with one thing at a time though and the abuse seems a good place to start and maybe klead into feeling better about your sexuality?

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mathfreak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week after post)

i no i am a littel late but i no exaculy wut you are going trough. i am gay my self. only both my brother and my sister harased me. i am now proud to be gay it takes alot of time pain and support but you can get through this with out counseling. but it would be 100% easier if you did see a counselor.

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