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So in the words of Sigmund Freud…

sorta:

Tell me about your mother.

I’m 32, and a new mom. My son is 6 months old, healthy and mostly happy (but teething, poor guy). I love him to pieces, but I’m worried all the time. I know so many people whose parents did a poor job of taking care of them, who are incredibly unhappy and who have a hard time in relationships. I can already tell I’m going to make mistakes, but I’d like to avoid as many of the big ones as I can. So I’d like your advice. What are the best/worst things that your parents did for you/to you that have stuck with you and affected you most?

I can rule out some of the huge ones…I’m not a drug addict or massively co-dependent or anything. But I have my flaws and my resource limitations and such, so I’m trying to gather as many realistic guide-posts as possible for this massive mine-field of parenthood I’m facing.

So yeah, lemme have it.

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 173 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

i dont think telling you what to do or not do is very helpful at all, its just fueling your anxieties. so instead ill just say :do the best you can, love him as much as you can and make sure he knows that, and it should be all good.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days after post)

Just don’t get all traumatized and lose your mind. The kid can kind of feel what you are feeling I think. Mother and child bond.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

I am a 17 year old and I just got busted for drinking at a party. The cops called my parents. Although it wasn’t a particularly pleasant conversation the next morning (the cops came at 5:00 AM) my mom ended by giving me a massive hug and telling me she still loved me. My dad is trying, I can tell. But his reactions are just not as comforting as my moms. What I’m trying to say here is, even when your son messes up big time (and I’m sure he will at least once) make sure that after the yelling, the tears, and the fighting you remind him you still love him. If you can manage to do that, I think you’ll be great. :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 4 hours after post)

:kay: wrote:
I am a 17 year old and I just got busted for drinking at a party. The cops called my parents. Although it wasn’t a particularly pleasant conversation the next morning (the cops came at 5:00 AM) my mom ended by giving me a massive hug and telling me she still loved me. My dad is trying, I can tell. But his reactions are just not as comforting as my moms. What I’m trying to say here is, even when your son messes up big time (and I’m sure he will at least once) make sure that after the yelling, the tears, and the fighting you remind him you still love him. If you can manage to do that, I think you’ll be great. :)

Thank you! I’ll remember that.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 3 hours after post)

:kay: wrote:
I am a 17 year old and I just got busted for drinking at a party. The cops called my parents. Although it wasn’t a particularly pleasant conversation the next morning (the cops came at 5:00 AM) my mom ended by giving me a massive hug and telling me she still loved me. My dad is trying, I can tell. But his reactions are just not as comforting as my moms. What I’m trying to say here is, even when your son messes up big time (and I’m sure he will at least once) make sure that after the yelling, the tears, and the fighting you remind him you still love him. If you can manage to do that, I think you’ll be great. :)

freakin beautiful man
i just wanna say, one thing my parents nnever did that i fully regret always be sure he knows you’ll be there for him always, no matter what.
be sure you try to stay as up to date with his life as possible, most parents are too blind to see that heir child needs help

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