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HOLY CRAP!! OMG. That’s EXACTLY what happened to me. Trust me, don’t take him back, just try not to talk to him for a while until you’re over him…I know it’ll be hard, but there comes a point in all of this where you realize that he’s not worth your time and you deserve better.
You should read some of the replies for my post “It hurts like hell”, they totally apply to you too

Ok! Thanks so much. How long did it take you to get over him? I want to so badly. I wish I just didn’t care but I do and it’s awful. I work with him and his new squeeze. I could puke. LOL.

jilwa wrote:
Ok! Thanks so much. How long did it take you to get over him? I want to so badly. I wish I just didn’t care but I do and it’s awful. I work with him and his new squeeze. I could puke. LOL.

Girl, you sound exactly like me…and the truth is, I’m still not over him. As much as I tell myself and others that I am, I’m just not. Someone on here told me that it takes as long as you dated him to get over him. Ex: I went out with my ex for 4 months, so based on that, I should be over him by November. How long did u two go out for? And don’t worry, time heals all.

Oh no! A year?! I can’t wait a year..haha. I’ll be forced to take extreme measures! I think that he’s seeing this new girl as a way to distract himself from the end of our relationship.(can we say rebound)I know that it was hard for him to let go too. I’d like to start dating again, but everyone looks ugly and seems too supid. Haha. Y’know..he’s not even that physically attractive, I fell for his charm and personality..the rest came much later. I’d like to take a 6 month vacation and come back a new woman. I know it’s not nice, but I hope that this new relationship fails miserably.

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. Actually, my personal philosophy is that it depends on the person and the circumstances. I seriously think you should just avoid seeing him and contacting him for 6 months, and then everything will be ok. Trust me, we all move on, and as sad as that seems, we have to because that’s life. Just don’t look back and let time heal your wounds.

I have to agree, as hard as it will be but the best thing to do is to let him go. Experiment with his new girlfriend. He likes you as a friend and he feels guilty of leaving you. I am sure you are a very attractive, independent woman. You don’t need someone to feel sorry for you. Instead of having an urge to go away and come back in 6 months as a renewed person, do it now in front of him, in front of the whole world. Show everybody you are a strong and worthy woman for someone who will surely love you for who you are and not sticking to you because he feels sorry for you or guilty of leaving. Be strong. He will realize later on who he lost. By then you will be a renewed woman. I am talking from experience.

Well I don’t advise getting into another relationship so soon because then they’d just be the rebound, and that wouldn’t be fair on the boy…

hannahstevens! you are right about him leaving the open door. he wanted to keep me in his life while he went to try something new. i’ve shut it though..completely.

he’s made a complete fool of me by starting another relationship with this tart so quickly…parading her around our staff party. no one thought that was very nice. what a cruel cruel joke. i have a lot of anger inside me still. i know that i deserve better and i intend to find it.

i wish i could have a normal break up and never see him again. except that, over the next few months, he’ll get to see that i’m ok and want nothing to do with him.

ignoring him and asking him for no contact was the best thing i could have done for myself. it was difficult but i had to do it.