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im 21 and on a deployment in Iraq, my fiancee makes repeated dumb decisions like today being drunk while getting a tattoo with a

sewing needle from her friend who has AIDs i love her to death but i dont know what to do anymore is there any advice

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Dump her.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

beatricegalant wrote:
Dump her.

I second that motion!

All favor say aye!

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Goodfella offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Don’t let her actions take your mind off your mission , be careful , I’ll pray for you , tell her to grow up , you need a grown up not a child in your life now !!!!!! GOD Bless !!!!!!!!!!!!

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

I second and third littlenick’s and Goodfella’s advice! May God Bless you and keep you safe!

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adam.blow offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (20 hours, 15 minutes after post)

well while it would be easy just to leave the situation, and walk away
thats not how i am, i dont like giving up on people, im the kind of person who sees
something through to the end and yes your right i can’t let this situation affect my mission mind set.
im afraid if i go it will mess up her life even more her family and lil brothers lack a positive male
role model and im not saying im an angel by any means but dont want them to think that when adults have problems they just give up and walk away. and i dont want people thinking that of me either despite her mistakes
i still love her and want to do right by her

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (20 hours, 49 minutes after post)

That’s all wonderful adam but it takes two to tango. You can wish and want all you can, she needs to do the same too. She can be a role model to her little brothers too. You are not responsible for her life and for her decisions what she is going to do. You can do only so much. I hope she sees all these good in you and what you stand for and will turn around and cherish you for who you are.

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