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hi pleas tell me how to handle the situation,

I met a girl about 3years ago….she made 1st move to be friend with me…we started dating..i completely fell for her…its seems she also like me..but whenever i want to talk about serious relationship she convince me that she is so heartened by her 1st relationship,that she doesn’t want to fall into the same situation again…

And she also said that, she is wanted by many other guys who are friend with her.But from her side it is only friendship,not more than that.. she enjoyed their friendship…..(on the contrary i am just opposite to that….i don’t hang up much with the girls…kind of old-days dedicated/fully committed person) …She wants to focus on her career…So I helped her about every possible way,gave her time and stand by her….

then about a year later i came to know(from other source) she is very close to a particular friend for 2years back from where we started..and their common friend call them gf/bf….(in the meantime she used to lied to me about hang up with that guy)…i asked her about their relationship…then she admitted..i stepped back quietly…i was devastated…but somehow mange to live life normally back again…But she always ,as ever, manage to get in touch with me and we spoke once in a while.Recently she was quite keen to meet me, and somehow mange to convince me for a date….we date… and she told that she has done a mistake,her boyfriend dint live up to her expectation….and she is very sad…I dint ask her about the relationship or the guy…all i said she should choose with whom she is most comfortable with…since then things were quite smooth…she started to treat me like never before….I thought she finally changed…we started to date again….and i get kind of feeling that she is on the edge of acknowledging our relationship finally…But very recently,suddenly she is started to behaving like old days…and finally she made a 180 degree turn and wants to remain just friend….

my question is —

if she consider me as a friend only, then why did she kept it secret about their relationship?

she always knew that i really love her from the bottom of my heart..and she takes advantage of it…she knew that may be i will be standing by her in hour of need..that’s why she want to remain friend with me… am i friend with benifi to her?what’s your opinion on that?please tell me how to handle this situation where she want to remain friend again…

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hi,
I met a girl about 3years ago….she made 1st move to be friend with me…we started dating..i completely fell for her…its seems she also like me..but whenever i want to talk about serious relationship she convince me that she is so heartened by her 1st relationship,that she doesn’t want to fall into the same situation again…

And she also said that, she is wanted by many other guys who are friend with her.But from her side it is only friendship,not more than that.. she enjoyed their friendship…..(on the contrary i am just opposite to that….i don’t hang up much with the girls…kind of old-days dedicated/fully committed person) …She wants to focus on her career…So I helped her about every possible way,gave her time and stand by her….

then about a year later i came to know(from other source) she is very close to a particular friend for 2years back from where we started..and their common friend call them gf/bf….(in the meantime she used to lied to me about hang up with that guy)…i asked her about their relationship…then she admitted..i stepped back quietly…i was devastated…but somehow mange to live life normally back again…But she always ,as ever, manage to get in touch with me and we spoke once in a while.Recently she was quite keen to meet me, and somehow mange to convince me for a date….we date… and she told that she has done a mistake,her boyfriend dint live up to her expectation….and she is very sad…I dint ask her about the relationship or the guy…all i said she should choose with whom she is most comfortable with…since then things were quite smooth…she started to treat me like never before….I thought she finally changed…we started to date again….and i get kind of feeling that she is on the edge of acknowledging our relationship finally…But very recently,suddenly she is started to behaving like old days…and finally she made a 180 degree turn and wants to remain just friend….

my question is —

if she consider me as a friend only, then why did she kept it secret about their relationship?

she always knew that i really love her from the bottom of my heart..and she takes advantage of it…she knew that may be i will be standing by her in hour of need..that’s why she want to remain friend with me… am i friend with benifi to her?what’s your opinion on that?please tell me how to handle this situation where she want to remain friend again…

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