You don’t have to stand and take abuse from a girl or woman. There is no shame in walking away from her. I would not let anyone put a cigarette out on me. She sounds a little insane anyway and there is no way to discuss anything or find some happy medium between you two or an answer to the argument. Crazy is as crazy does.
I would also examine myself to see if I am encouraging this reaction from people. Some people certainly ask for pain because of how mean they are. The bottom line is “if you want different results in a relationship with girls you will have to change your approach.”
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2 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)
no, this girl, is a freind of my ex! it was the night me and my ex had are last big argument before we split up! i was out and she would not stop haveing a go at me so i told her if she doesnt, i would tell her boyfreind that shes been cheating! i know i shouldnt of but i was geting very angry at her haveing a go at me! she is cheating on her boyfreind by the way i didnt make it up!…
report her to the police.
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2 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)
the police are useless where i live! plus shes a girl, and had her freinds there, i didnt….they would of all said i hit her and what she did was in defence or somthing.
The police wouldn’t think so if you went to them.
If you r asking if it would b ok to hit her - no
Just stay away from her then
If she was a known axe murderer you would have called the police, right? It doesn’t make any difference what the others say, when she is confronted with assault and battery it’s pretty hard not to tell the truth and try to lie your way out of what happened with the police question her.
You don’t have to take it. Don’t be worried about what her friends think either. They will at the very least find out that your someone to be reckoned with and may even begin to respect you.
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2 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)
no the police are no help, trust me! and know i am not asking if its ok to hit her, if i wanted to do that i would have done it already! look im not a weedy bloke, i can really handle myself, but im smart enough to not retaliate in that situation, i proble would have serously hurt her! i have stayed away from her but its just got me very angry to think girls think they have the right to get away with it. it isnt fair!
you were absolutely right to not react, but given your ages, and the evidence that would be there on your head, you can most certainly press assault charges against her, which is the best way to deal with adult bullies like that.
Some girls are bad. Some guys are bad. Some people just think they can get away with things. And I guess sometimes they do.
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2 months, 2 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)
You should have called pressed charges against her. Once you file a complaint, the police cannot stop you from filing it and they have to arrest her. That’s anywhere. That’s felony assault! If anything it would have cost her a couple of thousand dollars to get out of it!
It’s never OK to hit a woman but when they ask for it, and believe me she was asking for it, I would have broken her arm!
littlenick wrote:
It’s never OK to hit a woman but when they ask for it, and believe me she was asking for it, I would have broken her arm!
and then you get arrested for assault. the ol “SHE STARTED IT!” excuse only works in primary school im afraid.
courtybubble wrote:
littlenick wrote:
It’s never OK to hit a woman but when they ask for it, and believe me she was asking for it, I would have broken her arm!
and then you get arrested for assault. the ol “SHE STARTED IT!” excuse only works in primary school im afraid.
True dat!
I on the other hand, would have planted ants in her undie drawer and used condoms on her work desk, and a giant turd delivered straight to her boss in a lovely little box with a nice card saying thanks for being a piece of **** from _____ :)
little harder to file charges against that ;)
I am a woman, so in saying this i may be considered a traitor to my kind but it’s just my opinion. I think any violence, in any context is wrong. However, there has to be some dividing line between right and wrong. If i were you i would have scared the crap out of her without being violent. Squared up to her and told her in no uncertain terms that her behaviour, was repulsive and that she would not get away with it.
There are many types of self defence that are none violent,When she reached to put the cig out on your head ,you could have grabed her hand long enough to knock the smoke out of it.You could have pushed her hand away or smacked it away.It sounds to me like you were alittel intimedated becouse you were alone.She had the upper hand becouse her friends were with her.If it happens again i would most certianly stop her and if her friends jump in i would resort to more drastic measures.Dont ever let anyone abuse you.I know we are supposed to turn the other cheek but i dont think we are supposed to let ourselves get the crap kicked out of us either.Maybe you should take a self defence class,I have taken three becouse of the work i have done.Not all are ment to mame or kill.Most of the classes will teach you not to resort to violence unles you have no other way out.Also she sounds like a real pain in the ***,she will get hers at some point.
The other day, as I was walking in nearby park, a middle-age white lady unleashed her two small dogs (one is a brown and white bulldog). The bulldog immediately ran towards me and I was scared to death. My technique of standing still worked. However, I was upset, because there were signs posted saying “leash your dog, it’s the law”. As the woman didn’t even attempt to apologize, I told her it is illegal to let the dogs run wild. She rebuttle arrogantly :”that is too bad. I am sorry. But did it hurt you?” I repeated my statement. But she asked me to come close and wanted to tell me something. Then she made this racial remark “you people sting, go back to your country!” I remained calm and told her she is a racist and said I am gonna to report her and use my cellphone to take pictures of her unleashed dogs. She came forward, trying to snatch my phone. I stepped back,but trying to assault me further. I warned her not to come any closer. While I don’t want to waste time to report to the police, because I know the police will not believe me and by the time they came, she would have left. I just went to the park management to report the incident, although it was futile too. It is so unfair on men when they are being abused. Any further comments please?
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you underestimate the police and victimise yourself there. it is their job to believe you, and had you had photos it would have provided further evidence. its unfair because you made it unfair, thinking the police would not believe you and not reporting it. that doesnt help your plight.
I agree with courtybubble. Another important thing is to quickly make your statement and begin to go forward. Allowing someone to abuse you by standing there and taking it is useless.
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