Love help: Is this girl playing hard to get? - Help.com

I wish I could be more patient, but I have another girl that’s into me at the moment and I don’t know which to pursue. If I keep waiting, I’ll keep leading the other girl on.

So it’s like basically going with the sure fire option, and maybe being happier off. OR risking it all and going for this girl that might like me back and potentially screw anything up with the other girl.

This music theory girl—her name is Anna–I feel like I could have endless conversations with her, after all I talked to her for 2 hours straight without ever having an awkward silence. And I find her more physically attractive.

The other girl–her name’s Jen–I met through a mutual friend when I was drunk, but I thought she was kinda cute and I found her Boston accent to be the cutest thing ever. The thing is, even though we text a lot, I never really talked to her and got to know her. I just thought it was extremely sweet to invite me to sleep over in her room because my dorm was 20 mins away. I want to get to know her better, but I don’t want her to get the wrong impression. Sure I called her cute a couple of times via text, but I never touched her in person or done anything flirty. So I hope she doesn’t get any wrong ideas.

Ok, with that in mind, how can I let Jen down easy? I still want to be friends with her and her friends as well. So do I keep the text messages short between us and not get so conversational? Or just go cold turkey? I mean I don’t know how to respond to something flirty sounding and ignore it.

And one more thing: How should I approach Anna? I know I should give her distance so I don’t appear needy, but it wouldn’t seem ridiculous to sit next to her in music theory and strike up a convo right?

You make it seem like I can just turn on a “like” switch. Is it possible to talk to Anna while still being on good terms with Jen?

I guess that’s the case. Maybe it’s my natural instinct that I like girls who are a challenge. I think if Jen wasn’t obsessed with me, I would kind of be attracted to her. But that’s not the case and I think she’s a nice friend. Anna and Sam (the other girl who I thought liked me) really had me falling for them and I guess that’s because I had to work a foundation with them and more (refer to me asking Sam out at work and giving her chocolates).

Why am I so messed up?

i’ve known anna casually for like a week. isn’t that too soon? everytime i ask out a girl, it’s usually too soon and that’s what screws me over.

and now whenever she talks to me, she talks about this guy i’m friends with saying how funny he is, and how she saw this movie at his room with a bunch of other guys. and she says something like “so did you tell him about that thing?”. and in my music class i can overhear her talking to the other guys and getting their numbers, saying that she can help them with music theory.

from what i can gather, I think she’s maybe super into music theory and likes to flirt around with guys

plus if i ask her out and on the off chance she says no (like they all do), wouldn’t it be awkward seeing her everyday in music theory?

well we hang out occasionally, like i met her up at the library to study and she appreciated that i came. that and i went to dinner with some of her friends. but the truth is, im starting to really like her floormate who she’s friends with. i dont want to **** up their friendships or make anything complicated. so maybe i should back off? i’ve been in college for almost 2 weeks and I don’t need to be committed to a girl this early.