pregnancy help: I met and dated a girl over the summer who I felt and still feel is one of the best women I have ever met. - Help.com

if it was your baby you do have -some- say, atleast enough to speak your mind. if it wasn’t, you could only try and support her decision. as she told you she still have issues w/ past relationships so i would suggest backing off but sticking around. she’s bound to get over them sometime; it’s just up to you if you like her enough to wait.

yes it was mine, I do care for her so will continue consoling her as much as I can-if you have any ideas about how to make her feel better I would appreciate them.
thnanks for the advice

i think only time will help her heal. if it was yours and you wanted to keep it you should have said so, offered solutions for that option. if she didn’t want it ’cause of her family, etc…well, it’s done and over with; i hope you learned from it.

If it was mine I would have asked her to marry me, but I’m just that way.

I’m sorry you had to go through that. She sould have given you the opportunity to say what you wanted but at the same time you should’ve spoken up yourself without prompting. The way you are both feeling is understandable, but the situation being as it is now… it’s hard. If it were a long relationship I would say that maybe you should arrange to have dinner and just talk. Honestly and openly about the way you both feel without blame or accusation over what you feel you’ve lost. As it wasn’t, that makes it tricky. Part of me thinks, cut your losses and run, in time, you’ll realize it was the best outcome for someone who was still hungup on an ex. But it obviously hurts, and if she’s confided those feelings of regret to you then maybe she does want to talk, and that idea might be something you should think about approaching her with.

Best of luck sweetheart.

I would have begged her to keep it. I wouldn’t force her, because you can’t, but I would have begged down on my hands and knees.
There’s not a lot you can do to console her. Perhaps remind her she can have a baby in the future.

thanks for the advice, live and learn, was thinking at the time that the best outcome would come if the decision came from her without any pressure, looking at it in hindsight-very doubtful

i think i may have an idea of where you are coming from my situation is a lot different to yours but i to aborted a baby i wanted but my then partner didn’t but in an other way did.it was the hardest thing i have ever done and i know it wasn’t easy for him either.my best advice to you is to be there for her {don’t neglect your feelings thou} and talk as openly and honestly as you can with her.don’t force yourself s to talk about it as that is hard and it can take time for other feelings to come to the surface.just take your time with it and if you should feel the need to talk to her please do some times feelings can come back and catch you by surprise.i hope this helps