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Okay, so I’ve got this friend.

A best friend. She’s a girl, and I’m a guy. She is one of, if not the most beautiful, compassionate, friendly, and smartest person I know. I really like her, I might even love her, I don’t know. Problem is, she wouldn’t ever go for us being together. The whole best-friends-shouldn’t-date paradox. What do I do?

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (6 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

accept it and hope she someday realizes she likes you as more than a friend too.

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zilverknight offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

brake the friendship and say I’m too much in love with you. she might reconsider and realize she don’t want too loose you. She also might not respond. but you are better off then hurting inside that you might love this person? You have to ask is she that worth it?

If you don’t make a move nothing will change.

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jetmoo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

is that what she believes? has she said it before? I’d perhaps just accept it aswell. not brake up the friendship because of it.
thats childish and abit like black mail and that could make some hard feelings too. but if you really are hurting because you really care about her perhaps its for the better. but dont pretend that you are hurting if you are not to try and get her to like you. thats not right

you can either stay her friend if you like it this way.
you could tell her how you feel
or if you hurt because you dont think she likes you the same way you like her you could decide not to spend as much time with her (if you do this option then you should atleast consider telling her before hand to give her a chance of saying anything to find out if you really need to do this one)
It’s really up to you. good luck with which ever you choose.

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