Wait!
How do we know your not lying now?
How do we know you’re telling the truth now by saying that you’re a complusive liar? Maybe you’re not and you’re just lying to us. uh?
Now you need to work out why you feel the need to lie, really search yourself and when you have found your triggers try to eliminate them or deal with them differently
Councelling would help
my girlfriend has court me lying and she was the one who point this out and has court me out many times! and I starting to realise i am doing this often?
I really do want change not for her but my self?
where do I start?
Nante wrote:
Wait!
How do we know your not lying now?
littlenick wrote:
How do we know you’re telling the truth now by saying that you’re a complusive liar? Maybe you’re not and you’re just lying to us. uh?
Copycat…
I don’t know much about this, I’m not a compulsive liar myself, but I would guess there’s an element of instinct to it, am I right? You just blurt out a lie without really thinking about it? If that’s the case, you may or may not be able to stop doing that, but you can always go back and tell the truth afterwards. It’ll be kind of awkward and humiliating to admit it to people sometimes, but it will fix a lot of the trouble your lies could cause and maybe you will think twice about lying if you force yourself to fess up about it afterwards.
darkness and stars:
thank you for your help.. I do ask my self this question and I really do wish I could answer this! I will try this suggestion you have given me.
also i’m very scared to go counselling I got a number and I am going to try and pluck some courage to call them up but I am really scared because I don’t know if I am being true to my self? by calling them up and asking for help because I feel i’m strong enough to do it myself but i said this for a long time and there is still no change!
hopelikefire:
to that statement. Sometimes I think to my self maybe if I do try doing that people will look at me in a different light! maybe its because I am scared of the truth? I could ask 101 question why but I will still not get the answer!
I really want to get out of this habit of lying but now it has become a second nature to me! do you think its worth me going threw a lot off money and time to go see my doctor or counselling?
I want to do this to make my realationship work but most of all I want to do it for myself? :’(
There’s no weakness in calling the number. You could be the strongest person in the world, but how could you change without knowing how? If you go to counselling they aren’t going to do it for you, but they will help you understand why you lie and give you ways to help yourself. You will still have to be strong, but with counselling you will know how to apply that strength.
Think before you speak. Make sure you don’t start telling a story and change it every time. Only you know when you are lying just stop it! Stop it now!
thank you hopelikefire for that. I will try and call them up and see if they can help me. I want to do this! I really do! but for now how do I deal with it my self this is the hardest thing.
dr.ralph:
I do sometimes but when I’m put under presser that when I start to lie! I have noticed this, I do this to protect people feelings. And I am person who is like “People please be straight up with me!” I know now I am giving double standards witch is not right! I don’t know if this is start of me trying to get over this situation?.
You lie because you believe no one will know the truth. Even if your girlfriend catches you occasionally, most of your lies go under the radar.
I believe that every bit of knowledge that has ever existed will one day be accessible by everyone, that none of it is lost. This includes not just lies, but every slight you’ve ever done to anyone, as well as the good, from the times you fail to tip at a restaurant to the random act of anonymous kindness.
If you thought that every lie would be found out, how would you change your life?
sans:
I really want stop lying because (not being big headed) I can show how good of a person I am. and help my relationship grow.
this is something that will help me progress in my life and help me move on, I don’t want this stepping stone to hold me back progressing in life. I want to over come this step! I know this is going to take a long time it will not be a over night thing, but I need to do it before its to late and really do mess up my life.
but is this really helping me over come every thing knowing how it can change my life. I need to start moving forward with this not stay on one step!
where do I start?
So you lie to make people happy? You need to start treating people the way they deserve to be treated and just tell them the cold hard truth… pretty soon you will begin to enjoy this new found power.
thank you so much for your effort! i will go threw this links and read threw them i hope this will help me out
dr.ralph:
I will try this, my other half always tells me just to tell her the truth but I still feel the need to lie though even doe she tells me “how ever much it hurts me tell me!” I get scared to tell the truth. I have noticed I have done it with other people but not as bad as I do it to my other half!
I have been given some links in to dealing with compulsive lying and I will be going threw them to see if this will give me any help.
is there any more advice that will help me over come my compulsive lying?
Just don’t tell her she’s fat. She REALLY doesn’t want to hear it.
how do I deal with my matter doe? I understand what you mean by being straight up but its so hard…
I need to show how can I change?
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