stress help: How can a female friend help a man going through very serious traumatic stress?

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How can a female friend help a man going through very serious traumatic stress?

I’m really just a friend!

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 minute after post)

Be there for him and be a shoulder for him to cry or at least rest his beleaguered mind and head on.

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ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

Depending on the situation…
Beer and food

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Neutra 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Give him some space and comfort him when he needs it.

Nante 29 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

I can think of a couple of ways ;)

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ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Nante wrote:
I can think of a couple of ways ;)

lol

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byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Nante wrote:
I can think of a couple of ways ;)

It’s not that kind of relationship! Believe me, if it were, I would be all over that one! But really, it’s not.

ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

What happened to him hun?

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byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

It’s long and complicated, but he’s about to plead guilty to something he never did, because of very strong pressure from people who are threatening him. He has lost nearly everything and feels he can’t resist the pressure anymore. I’m fighting very hard against it but he has nothing left and can’t even think straight to make a good decision. I don’t know what he needs.

byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

He’s also sick of talking about it.

ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

he should not plead guilty unless he is.
No one should be threatening him… what does his lawyer say??

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blu #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

what you really need to do is talk to someone who has in criminal justice and get their advice. Other wise instead of forcing him to talk about it. show him how much you would miss him

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byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

I know he’s a big boy and he has to make his own decisions, but he is in awful shape. I’m trying to think of something I can do to distract him so he can just feel like himself for a little while.

ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

how old is he??? Not that it matters cause men are always boys at heart…
Go carting, paintball, clay bird shooting, dancing and getting plastered. fishing, tramping, etc..

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byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

blu wrote:
what you really need to do is talk to someone who has in criminal justice and get their advice.

I already have. A very good lawyer gave both of us some great advice. Unfortunately she is not his lawyer. He is so disheartened that he can’t find the strength to follow through. His lawyer doesn’t have a clue and is not wiling to go to bat for him against his current adversaries.

My friends knows what needs to be done to fix the whole situation, it’s just that he’s so tired of being bullied, he is ready to give in. I think he feels really alone and unsupported. He’s not.

byrdie 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Maybe tree-climbing is the best idea…

carolfou #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (23 hours, 40 minutes after post)

Yes good idea, go climb a tree - will do it myself, the world looks different from there. Thank you.

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ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 day after post)

carolfou wrote:
Yes good idea, go climb a tree - will do it myself, the world looks different from there. Thank you.

me too!!! I love climbing trees…

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emip 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

when someone is doing something they feel like they have to do, and not something they want to do there is a lot of stress that goes with it. you feel like you have no control over your own life. you feel as though everyone is trying to cage you up and you have no freedom. the only thing you can do for him is be there for him.. and if possible get him out for a while.. like a roadtrip if possible. doesnt even have to be somewhere exciting or very far away.. just getting away helps to clear the mind and make you think things through a little better.

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