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Please help me.

i started dating this guy and it was going well until he told me to stop hanging out with my friend that i was living with. i wanted to be with him so i spent less time with her. she ended up hating me for it, i moved out and we no longer talk. i wanted to go home over the summer to be with my family who live 3000 miles from me. he told me if i left he would break up with me and kill himself. he said he cant function without me. i stayed. at least once a week we get in a fight where he calls me weak and pathetic for talking to my family so much. he got mad at me when i bought tickets to go see them at christmas because he wanted to spend the holidays together. we are only 19. i am going to start school on tuesday and he looked into the same school as me so we could “be together”. i didnt think he would actually be able to go because his family is not that wealthy but now he is going. he planned his classes with mine. hes driving me insane. he makes fun of me all the time and i no longer have any friends because of him. i was going to break up with him once he dropped me off at school but now hes coming. he said the only reason he was coming was because of me. i dont know what to do now because i will see him everyday and i know he’ll make it very difficult to get away from him. please help me. someone…

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littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Two words: Restraining Order.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

why don’t you just leave him, however hard it maybe it can only get worse, and if he wants to kill himself(which i think is unlikely) that is his decision and nothing to do with you.

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fla offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 14 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

sounds like this relationship is gonna end. I dont think you guys are right for eachother.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Yeah I had a relationship like that. Lasted 2 years. And then took me 5 years of councilling to come to terms with things. It ruined my life and my confidence.

You need to get rid of him, take every bit of strength you can and get rid of him. Then surround yourself with friends and family and wade it out until he leaves you alone.

And as previously suggested, restraining orders are very helpful in doing this.

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fla offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 14 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

RAVER

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

6 words for you: Run For Your Life, Charlie Brown!

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

cut off his sack.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Before you break up with him borrow $100.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

shave off his eyebrows and draw new ones with a sharpie.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

With a mustache!
You can’t beat a nifty mustache.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
shave off his eyebrows and draw new ones with a sharpie.

My neighbor does that. She shaves her eyebrows off all the time. She paints new ones really high on her forehead. She’s permanently surprised!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

fla wrote:
RAVER

:o yes?

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