Help help: I am considered to be…boring. - Help.com

Well im usually a shy kid but when im with my friends, im the same, very outgoing. You just have to go for it. If you see a girl you like you need to make yourself be more outgoing, and confident. I’m different now because i’ve gotten more comtorable talking to people without my friends. You just gotta try being more confident and outgoing. It’s really not that hard. Find some way to make yourself more confident.

i have the same feelings just as yours,and i don’t know what to do ,either.
as its the time for me to apply for my graduate’s dgree,i find that there is something wrong with my emotional conditions.
i don’t want my friends ashamded for my strange behaviours too.
anyone can help?

i have no tips because im the same way except the difference is that im at a new hs and i have no friends and its been like 4 weeks of school already so at least you got friends :)

Ya, I’m the same way… I’ve been working at it for a long time and I’m getting better at trying to be more outgoing and all for a while, but I’ve still got a long way to go.
Well, the best way to be a little more outgoing and all is to make a concious effort to be more outgoing. If you always let other people lead the conversation, then you’ll always rely on other people to lead conversations. And you yourself will never really get any better at having exciting conversations. It’s all about effort, no ones going to come along and help you be better at conversations, you have to figure that out for yourself I’m sorry to say
As for what to talk about, pick something your interested in, or something the other person seems interested in and see how long that can last. If it doesn’t work, pick something else. Or pick something generic, like talk about the weather or some new movie that just came out or whatever

To Sideflip: I’m a girl actually D:

I don’t know how to be confident and outgoing cuz my looks affect it all. For example, if I go to school and I think I look okay, I’m happy. Nothing’s wrong but when I go to the washroom and see something off, and I can’t really fix it, it bothers me and affects me :/ almost the rest of the day…

And it kills me cuz it’s ruining how I act :/

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To Sideflip: I’m a girl actually D:

I don’t know how to be confident and outgoing cuz my looks affect it all. For example, if I go to school and I think I look okay, I’m happy. Nothing’s wrong but when I go to the washroom and see something off, and I can’t really fix it, it bothers me and affects me :/ almost the rest of the day…

And it kills me cuz it’s ruining how I act :/

Honestly if a guy knows that a girl can look good than they know that your a good looking person. If you have a minor problem like you have hair sticking up and you can’t get to hairspray or whatever it shouldn’t be a huge deal…but im a guy, it sounds stuiped but i run track and i use gel to keep my hair in place because it poofs up if i don’t (It’s kinda funny actually) but anyway i know how your feeling, i don’t like seeing that my hair is out of place when I already have gel in it.

Oh sorry i meant that if a guy knows that a girl usually looks good, it isn’t bad for them to see you with messed up hair or anything, whatever it is.