How to balance needing friendship with burdening friends? - Help.com

it is really difficuct.
it needs more practice i think.
no one can be your loyal friend,unless you have the same goal in all.
take care of your own secrets without knowing by others,for that may heart you much.

future ex-wife????

And I think the line if different with everyone, just need to judge it.
I’ve been wanting to talk with someone who wanted to listen more than I thought they did.
I’ve overly burdened someone who wasn’t up for it.
I’ve wanted to help someone but they felt they couldn’t let me.
I’ve had someone lean on me far more than I felt comfortable with.

Here’s a few thoughts on it.
- Knowing that you are not the only one they can lean on helps. If you feel that you are the only one they can talk to, then it becomes scary for those times when you aren’t up for listening.

- Knowing the place. Doing it in an setting where they can leave anytime they want mean people can take as much as they feel comfortable hearing, and leave the rest.

- Balance it out with other things, like doing things together that you enjoy.

all the best

chunky - future ex-wife, as in they haven’t finalised the divorce yet, so are technically still married.

Generally speaking, gushing at someone will only serve to scare them off. I think the amount you can open up in a new friendship increases in proportion to the amount of alcohol consumed by both parties, but that’s not exactly the same solution. The best people to open up to are always the ones going through similar situations, as they might be needing someone to lean on too and you can help each other out. On the other hand, talking to people you don’t want to open up to can help you stay more upbeat about things, because you feel like you need to. After a while of doing this, you realise you’re actually capable of having a good time despite all the bad stuff that’s going on, and life doesn’t seem so bad any more.