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Me, I’m overwhelmed…

like everybody else. Don’t ask me why I did it to myself, I don’t know. I am 23 working full time, recently engaged, purchasing a house, and applying to grad schools. Does it all make me happy, not sure. What this all comes down to is i’m stressed with everything and my parents aren’t making it any better by demanding the wedding be their way or else they are basically cutting me off. I’m just looking for some perspective here and maybe somebody who has dealt with overbearing parents before.

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darkness_and_stars offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 45 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

What do you mean “Why i did it to myself”?
What did you do?
O.o

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straypsyche21 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

I brought everything upon myself at once. Thought I could do it all, but it seems like I can’t and now I feel like I’m stuck under it all.

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darkness_and_stars offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 45 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

You dont need to feel like that :( You shouldnt have to
You need to be proactive one this if you can
You need to figure out what the problems are and then what YOU can do about it to make yourself happier.

Your parents want the wedding their way because they care and they want it to be (In their opinions) the perfect day for you, but they are going about it all the wrong way.
I know your wedding day is VERY important to you, as it is to most people, but remember even if everything isnt your way it doesnt mean its not still nice.
Try if they suggest something you dont like try saying “Yeah, i can see why you thought of that, but maybe THIS would be nicer?”
Or just try to explain to them how you feel and say you want to plan it together but dont want it planned for you.

You should feel really pleased with yourself, you are getting your life together and it sounds great
Just chill, relax and think about how sorted you are :)

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straypsyche21 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (44 minutes after post)

I have tried to compromise but it does not seem to be working. It seems like our relationship has gone been going down hill for about a year now. It may not be long before we don’t talk anymore, which makes me feel even worse about it. Some people tell me they will never change and now I’m thinking they are right.

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