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i think there is. :) have you tried getting any help? maybe therapy?

btw, you may think you’re lagging behind. but 23 is young! :) a lot of people just started turning their careers around starting at 40. we see a lot of those stories at TV. i guess my point is, you shouldn’t be in a hurry.

i’m 23 too, by the way. :)

Hi there

I can understand where you’re coming from. I have a great past and a sucky present. I got prizes and scholarships and messed things up.

Why? Anxiety. I think you have the same problem. It explains the despair and the violent impulses.

Anxiety leads to impulsive choices. You don’t think through career options and jump into something maybe because you are good at it. You do well but it isn’t your thing. Anxiety might make it difficult to cope with trying to figure life out. The more you get off the rails, the more you feel left behind, the more anxious you get.

You hate being anxious because it’s uncomfortable. So you get angry. You blame yourself (and feel suicidal) and you blame others (and isolate yourself or want to hurt them) because they remind you of your mistakes and make you feel more anxious which you hate.

It’s just an emotional cycle.

The good news is you can overcome this. Once you recognize what is happening you can take steps to deal with the anxiety directly instead of hating other people or worrying about violent thoughts you can realize that you simply need to (a) avoid stimulants and depressants like sugar, caffeine, alcohol; (b) exercise vigorously regularly (long slow runs, biking, swimming); (c) break every problem down into tiny pieces and work at accomplishing each piece and congratulating yourself for it; (d) accept that you are human and make mistakes and that people who seem to have it all rarely do… they often have the same fears as you do and they often act strangely at times for the same reasons… those fears.

Get yourself “What color is your parachute?” and “I could do anything if I only knew what it was” and go talk to career counsellors at school etc. Start working exploring new ideas and avenues.

I’m over a decade older than you and I have to do this now myself.

I’ve taken medical help but to no avail. I find the therapists n counsellers morons. They talk **** that instead of helping me makes me want to kill them too.

Like I said, your impulse to harm others comes from the fact you feel anxious about the future and feeling anxious makes you angry and so you blame the people who are not relieving that anxiety. This is common male behaviour. You must accept that you are anxious and you own that anxiety and it’s your responsibility to do something about it. You cannot blame others for it. It is not their fault that you are anxious or lost.

However, if you have overwhelming desires to harm others then you are going to have to get professional help and medication.

@ linuxya
I didnt know sugar being a depressant. I get intense cravings for sugary things these days. Thanx for ur valuable time everyone.. I’ll try to abide by your suggestions.

I hate the ‘it could be worse theory’! even if u suffer n rot, be happy coz it could be worse.. wtf!

sarikka.chauha wrote:
I hate the ‘it could be worse theory’! even if u suffer n rot, be happy coz it could be worse.. wtf!

I agree 300%

It’s always better to chase something than to run away from something, to pursue something rather than endure something.

Your challenge is to find what you want to chase.

linuxya wrote:

sarikka.chauha wrote:
I hate the ‘it could be worse theory’! even if u suffer n rot, be happy coz it could be worse.. wtf!

I agree 300%

It’s always better to chase something than to run away from something, to pursue something rather than endure something.

Your challenge is to find what you want to chase.

You sound very convincing n inspiring. thanx :)