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my best friend has been very cold to me for the past 6 months and here why…

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well to paint u a picture; i have this friend ever since senior year of high-school,we ended up going to the same college and we became really good friends… i introduced him to my current group of friends and they all got along great, and as time went by he became like family to me.

anyways 4 years later, and gradually he started distancing himself from us (my group of friends), and over a period of 6 months he went from barely talking to not hearing about him in 2 months… i tried to confront him a few times but he brushed it off… needless to say 6 months later, i got really fed up and just let him have it, he agreed to meet me and explain….

heres what he had to say; he told me he was gay and he has this obsession with me, he told me whenever wed get drunk he would always try to make a pass or something (but i honestly thought nothing of it, alotta ppl get overly touchy when they drink) and that he couldnt stand doing this to someone he cared about, so he would put some distance and hope that this would pass… but he ended up overdoing it and was extremely cruel to me. nind you that he’s closeted and hasnt told anyone that hes gay and he planned on never telling me this but i beat it out of him.
well u can imagine my utter shock and confusion(hes had alot of gfs and hes not that girly)… and heres the thing, i dont really give a **** if hes gay or not, but i just wanna get past this… i wanna have some sort of friendship but i think that might be selfish and cruel to him as ill never return those feelings for him or is it the opposite?

help? what… how…

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

OK, firstly, being gay does not mean you have to be femanine.

He still has some trust for you because telling you something like that must of been really hard to do.

I think you should tell him what you think and how it is and then let him decide if he still wants the friendship or not.

Say that you are not bothered about his sexuality but that you are straight and always will be so nothing can come of it all.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

just to clarify i didnt mean that only girly guys get to be gay, im just saying that its harder to tell and thats why i was shocked and didnt expect it.

thanks for your reply, appreciate it and yea i guess thats the only option i have

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