Love help: My boyfriend and i are ‘on a break’ right now. - Help.com

My boyfriend and i are ‘on a break’ right now. We need to do things to nurture the friendship side which has been sadly lacking since we’ve been together. I also need advice especially on communication for people who arent used to talking. I find it incredibly diffcult to express myself -with him i have to ‘practice’ what i’m gonna say by mouthing the words silently beforehand- but he doesnt notice any of the effort i make, he just moans about the times when i cant tell him whats wrong (often because i cant explain how im feeling even to myself) +he can be almost bullying in the way he demands to know whats up - forgetting that he can be just as bad for giving me hours of the silent treatment + not telling me whats wrong. It can be terrifying when he does that as i dont know what to think/whether im supposed to have done something terrible + i dont think thats quite the way he feels when he’s demanding to know why i’m down - he just seems really annoyed. It really comes down to trust; becasue we didnt nourish the friendship within the relationship, i dont think we’ve built up much trust. there was never any cheating or anything like that, but i dont feel confidant to talk to him -i want to + want to know how- and i dont think he finds me capable of understanding him / has much trust in me even though (he knows) i’ve confided things in him which i’ve told to nobody else. He’s finished uni now so distance is kind of a problem. I’ve tried to get down to see him but his schedule always gets in the way. He says he’ll come up and see me, but i have no idea when that may be + until then i’m kind of in limbo with him. I have to be very careful not to say anything emotional on the phone so as not to push him away even further + its vry difficult to get 2 words in on th phone anyway because he never seems to stay on for more than a minute - very quick very casual, when there’s so much i need to say to him + the chance to say it (which has to be face to face really) keeps getting put back and back.

My boyfriend and i are ‘on a break’ right now. We need to do things to nurture the friendship side which has been sadly lacking since we’ve been together. I also need advice especially on communication for people who arent used to talking. I find it incredibly diffcult to express myself -with him i have to ‘practice’ what i’m gonna say by mouthing the words silently beforehand- but he doesnt notice any of the effort i make, he just moans about the times when i cant tell him whats wrong (often because i cant explain how im feeling even to myself) +he can be almost bullying in the way he demands to know whats up - forgetting that he can be just as bad for giving me hours of the silent treatment + not telling me whats wrong. It can be terrifying when he does that as i dont know what to think/whether im supposed to have done something terrible + i dont think thats quite the way he feels when he’s demanding to know why i’m down - he just seems really annoyed. It really comes down to trust; becasue we didnt nourish the friendship within the relationship, i dont think we’ve built up much trust. there was never any cheating or anything like that, but i dont feel confidant to talk to him -i want to + want to know how- and i dont think he finds me capable of understanding him / has much trust in me even though (he knows) i’ve confided things in him which i’ve told to nobody else. He’s finished uni now so distance is kind of a problem. I’ve tried to get down to see him but his schedule always gets in the way. He says he’ll come up and see me, but i have no idea when that may be + until then i’m kind of in limbo with him. I have to be very careful not to say anything emotional on the phone so as not to push him away even further + its vry difficult to get 2 words in on th phone anyway because he never seems to stay on for more than a minute - very quick very casual, when there’s so much i need to say to him + the chance to say it (which has to be face to face really) keeps getting put back and

My boyfriend and i are ‘on a break’ right now. We need to do things to nurture the friendship side which has been sadly lacking since we’ve been together. I also need advice especially on communication for people who arent used to talking. I find it incredibly diffcult to express myself -with him i have to ‘practice’ what i’m gonna say by mouthing the words silently beforehand- but he doesnt notice any of the effort i make, he just moans about the times when i cant tell him whats wrong (often because i cant explain how im feeling even to myself) +he can be almost bullying in the way he demands to know whats up - forgetting that he can be just as bad for giving me hours of the silent treatment + not telling me whats wrong. It can be terrifying when he does that as i dont know what to think/whether im supposed to have done something terrible + i dont think thats quite the way he feels when he’s demanding to know why i’m down - he just seems really annoyed. It really comes down to trust; becasue we didnt nourish the friendship within the relationship, i dont think we’ve built up much trust. there was never any cheating or anything like that, but i dont feel confidant to talk to him -i want to + want to know how- and i dont think he finds me capable of understanding him / has much trust in me even though (he knows) i’ve confided things in him which i’ve told to nobody else. He’s finished uni now so distance is kind of a problem. I’ve tried to get down to see him but his schedule always gets in the way. He says he’ll come up and see me, but i have no idea when that may be + until then i’m kind of in limbo with him. I have to be very careful not to say anything emotional on the phone so as not to push him away even further + its vry difficult to get 2 words in on th phone anyway because he never seems to stay on for more than a minute - very quick very casual, when there’s so much i need to say to him + the chance to say it (which has to be face to face really) keeps getting put back and back.