Help me with a hard break-up

Theresa

Help me with a hard break-up

I really care for this guy I was dating. Seems he has to move away to further his career. I’m having a hard time dealing with it. Especially because the way he ended things wasn’t face to face. I didn’t even get to say goodbye. I feel really broken right now. I’m having a hard time dealing with the fact that maybe he wasn’t into to me as much I as I thought he was. Should this matter?

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

If he’s gone, he’s gone. What else can you do? Maybe it was better for you this way because maybe he spared you a long and maybe even harder break up. Do something to move on.

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Anonymous #
2 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
If he’s gone, he’s gone. What else can you do? Maybe it was better for you this way because maybe he spared you a long and maybe even harder break up. Do something to move on.

True. I guess the first step is acceptance and not to dwell on things. It’s so easy to say move on but I’m also hurt cuz I lost a friend. I wish it didnt hurt as much

smartikles31 26 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

littlenick is right as hard as it sounds just try to move on and day by day the pain will get fewer and farther apart. yes its was wrong that it ended that way but maybe the guy didnt feel comfrotable telling u in person which just makes him a whimp.

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Anonymous #
2 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 1 minute after post)

He sounds like a meany, based solely on not talking to you face to face about his move. You don’t need that. Sounds like he had no regard for you at all. (unless he just couldn’t handle seeing you cry)

Theresa 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 7 minutes after post)

I think you hit the nail on the head. See, I guess that’s what I’m trying to make sense of. He either didn’t want to make things harder on himself (or me for that matter) by closing the book or he wasn’t that into me.

It was a fairly new relationship but he had made all the steps to be serious. He wanted me to meet his family he wanted to be apart of my daughters life (which by the way I never let happen before in any relationship!)

I feel crushed because he was apart of my everyday life and now he’s moving away to Sweden!! What??? He’s career meant that much to him I get it and I support him but I didn’t get a face to face goodbye??? That’s not cool!!!!!!

yeek #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

I can completely relate with what you are going through. I got a job in another city which had been a dream come true but then I had my love in my home town, so I had to move if I had to go on with my career. That time he supported me saying that,’ if we are meant to be together, we will be no matter the distance’ and trust me this was the only motivation I needed which boosted my trust and confidence in his love.

But as time passed, I got busier, we were not meeting each other like every weekend and my guy who promised me something said, ‘ promises are meant to be broken, I can’t manage this long distance relationship’.

I am back now in my home town coz my heart is here, lost all the self confidence I have, tried convincing him that I love him, but I guess he has flushed out each and every memory we had together.

I know what you are going through but the only thing I would suggest is meet old friends, talk to them, think about the good things about not being with him and how unlucky he is to kick away the true love anybody gets once in their lifetime. So cheer up!! M sure the next guy in your life is much better lover who will truly understand your emotions.

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bexsphillip 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

it sounds like it was 4 the best he probally could of done it face to face but that proves his a whimp
and his not worthy of ur love one day ur find a man that will love u and ur daughter just hang in there it might be a long weight

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