lonely help: I have always had problems meeting people and making friends - Help.com

I have always had problems meeting people and making friends and I am living away from home at college for the first time and it’s getting worse.

I have only spoken to a handful of people since I arrived three weeks ago and that’s because they spoke to me first . I can’t even speak to other students in my classes even if we’re required to get into groups. To make matters worse, I feel guilty/ashamed/embarrassed when I have no reason to be. I couldn’t wait to get back to my room today and that was around 12:30 in the afternoon. I’ve been hiding in my room ever since and it’s 8:30 now. Most people would simply say “Oh, just man up already!” but it’s not as easy for some people. These last three weeks have been the loneliest days I have ever had and I thought I was lonely when I lived back home. In all honesty, I probably would have killed myself if it weren’t for the fact that it would ruin my parents and brother. I know it’s selfish to think such things, and I completely recognize that it’s selfish and that leads to more feelings of guilt. I feel lonely, scared, guilty and a billion other negative feelings I won’t go into and I don’t know what to do. I have nobody to talk to and I can’t tell my parents things like this and I can’t afford to see a therapist. I hope things will get better but that’s my problem is that I hope but have no willpower to make changes.

Even after all that, I know what my problem is and what I can do to help it, but I’m not doing anything about it. What does that say about me?

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