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Stop being friends. As it’s only hurting yourself. He is an idiot if he can’t see the goodness of you. Even if it’s staring right in his face! Perhaps you need to tell him that.

But if you stay with him. He will never feel the loss of you not being there at his side.
He may have a change of heart… But it won’t happen if you remain like this…

Insertnamehere: Okay. Maybe time will be on my side this time. And best of luck with your endeavors! :)

crushed.velvet.no: That’s a good point. I hope we’ll still be friends ten years down the road, but I don’t think about the future that much.

zilverknight: I know you’re right. But this boy is so dear to me, as a friend as well… I don’t think I have it in me. If I did, this would be so much easier.

Dear I feel your pain. Though mine is different I do understand.

A wise man told me this. “You cannot carry their torch for them”. This is true! Though how much you want. That hurts as you want nothing bad to happen to them. You want them to be safe, loved, cared for, Peace, Honesty, friendship and so much more.

You cannot carry their torch if they don’t want to…. And there is where the greatest pain is. Because you know. Things may not go well… comparing what you have to offer in the long run. I’m going to bring up the bible for an example. You know the story Cain and abele? The part “am I my brother’s keeper?”

Each person has free will. To do and please what they want. Even if it is for evil or bad choices….

I know it’s hard but my dear… You will save yourself a world of hurt if, you try to do this. Trust me on this…. The sooner the better….

Your heart speaks compassion and love. Don’t let this fire be extinguished by pain…

Zilverknight, thank you so much for caring enough to lend me your advice. But as much as it hurts me, I’d rather be his friend than nothing. He’s going through a rough time in his life right now. I feel like I have to choose between his and my needs, and I just can’t force myself to make the more reasonable choice.

I think what I have to do is to value him as a friend, and accept that that’s all we’re going to be, at least for now. I’ve got to try to let go; however, staying with him would make that infinitely more difficult for me. I’m not sure I would want it any other way.

He really is a wonderful friend. He respects me, cares about me, confides in me. And he understands what I’m going through. I take comfort in that, I think.

I’m not familiar with the Cain and Abel story…

Look it up. Anyway I meant. You are responsible of your own life not others. As long you know what you’re doing. As said I have seen many types like you… Anyway I wish you luck!

The last piece of advice unless asked otherwise is this.
Often we hold on with all our might onto something that isn’t good for us. Sometimes we realize it or never but when we do. And look up we realize how much years has been wanted. And good ones that we missed out because, we where to focused on somebody else. That person also recognizes that. And won’t feel comfortable being only second place.

Something worth to consider…

You’re right, Zilverknight. You’re absolutely right.

Thank you again. :)