Love help: How do you stop loving someone you’ve never met? - Help.com

I think not talking to him at all isn’t the best way to go about it seeing as you think alot about this person, it’s probably too much at once.

Maybe you should try going online once a week, and speaking to him then. When you’re not online, you should try builidng other relationships and sorting yourself out.

Sounds like the romantic movie “you got mail” ever seen it?

It’s easy to fall in love with an illusion. As it holds an ideal that sounds and feel is true… Ask yourself what more do you know about this guy other then; he comforts me and the other way around?

I don’t think it’s love what you feel. It’s more of a fantasy that you have created in your mind and an infatuation. Those are hard to get rid of until something happens to dispel that fantasy and infatuation that you have of that person.

lol u got mail, good one, it is sorta like that i guess when u place it …. u know i met someone who i have been talking to for years online before we actually met, then we met and sparks were flying everywhere and all i could think about was him. unfortunately for him life wasn’t as great as i thought it was for him. lies lies lies from the beginning but not. i was his escape from life and was his dream world where we can’t leave dreams be as dreams. i hope u know what i mean by that,

You need to quit trying to live your life in cyberworld.

who me?

The poster.

I know it’s a fantasy and it isn’t real, which is why I’m trying to shut things off, but it still hurts. When we first met we both had good real life social lives, but then mine went to pieces and that’s how my feelings for him started. I wish I could get back to that. I just don’t know how you go about getting over someone I suppose…

I have been in the Exact Same situation before…yet that, im way over it now. Let me tell u what i have done.

Like u, im in love with a guy i’ve not met as well. We talked about everything, helped one another. I grew more attached, told him that i think im in love, he says he likes me but wishes to be friends. I stayed away from him, he kept coming back to me and wants me back. We got together as girl-boyfriends.

We tried our ways to make it work out but we want different things in life. We fought constantly cos we couldnt give each other what they want. We broke up.

The breakup part was the hardest. I was depressed for a year and find myself falling back into square 1 with no progress. I flunk school, regretted not realising this fast.

BUT, i met someone a year later….somewhere in this world. I FINALLY GOT OvER HIm!!

so, what im trying to say is that, DONT LET URSELF BELIEVE THIS IS LOVE. Stop thinking of him that way. Its not reality. Find a new distraction and away from him.

N trust me, someone REAL is so much better than someone cyber.

detach urself from him, i dont wish to see u be like me in the end. The heartbreak was too much, almost couldnt handle it. N remember, WHAT HE SAYS ONLINE may not be who he really is. WORDS ARE cHEAP!!!!!

there are stories that these relationships do work out. but the thing is. commitment hard work and somebody needs to move asap. if not it won’t last…

But to me you both just like the fantasy. may it be real or not. You both have to work at it.

If you’d lived closer to each other, you could have met and that would have decided which path to follow. If meeting personally is not possible, than just move on. You both were there for each other in need and now there is nothing else left.