I really need to talk to someone about this–My boyfriend
and i are apart reassessing our feelings, but while i’ve been doing work on myself, examining if i really want him, going through a range of feelings for him (never excluding love) I dont see any evidence that he’s doing the same. This ‘break thing’ was his idea, but whereas im trying to be as constructive as possible, he’s just ignoring us. There are things i need to talk to him about - things that need to be said face to face- but its very tricky getting to talk to him at all. He doesnt communicate with me and when i call him, i have to be very careful to stay within the limits of the casual. He has an incredibly tight and heavy schedule so he doesnt have the time to meet face to face. meanwhile i have to bottle up everything i need so desperately to say to him. This is tearing me to shreds, im not looking after myself im listless all day and cant seem to concentrate on anything but how i feel towards Him. Im dreading the day when i open up facebook and see th word ’single’ enforced upon me. He said ‘go on a break’ through a facebook chatbox and i dont want to believe that he could be so cruel as to dump me publicly so that everyone else knew before me, but what he’s putting me through right now is cruel if he could only know it. He seemed to fall in love with me very quickly and although my feelings at the beginning of the relationship weren’t as strong as his, they blossomed over time. I dont know if he’s one of these shallow people whos feelings simply fizzle out given enough time - as far as i know im his longest relationship - i really dont know if he feels anything for me anymore. If i get into feelings over the phone, he’ll refuse to see me again. It hurts so much when he shows such disregard for me, because im in love with him, he’s made me so unhappy but he’s a really nice person who’s so genuine with his regular friends, if he would just give it a chance we could be great together.
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My boyfriend and i are apart reassessing our feelings, but while i’ve been doing work on myself, examining if i really want him, going through a range of feelings for him (never excluding love) I dont see any evidence that he’s doing the same. This ‘break thing’ was his idea, but whereas im trying to be as constructive as possible, he’s just ignoring us. There are things i need to talk to him about - things that need to be said face to face- but its very tricky getting to talk to him at all. He doesnt communicate with me and when i call him, i have to be very careful to stay within the limits of the casual. He has an incredibly tight and heavy schedule so he doesnt have the time to meet face to face. meanwhile i have to bottle up everything i need so desperately to say to him. This is tearing me to shreds, im not looking after myself im listless all day and cant seem to concentrate on anything but how i feel towards Him. Im dreading the day when i open up facebook and see th word ’single’ enforced upon me. He said ‘go on a break’ through a facebook chatbox and i dont want to believe that he could be so cruel as to dump me publicly so that everyone else knew before me, but what he’s putting me through right now is cruel if he could only know it.
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