Three years ago my cousin’s husband tried to lure me into

baucom197

Three years ago my cousin’s husband tried to lure me

into the bedroom while intoxicated.

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zilverknight 32 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

The Q. is how where you in that situation? where was your cousin at that point of time? and how late was it?

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leedarien 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (46 minutes after post)

are you wondering if you should tell your cousin or not? has he tried since then?

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baucom197 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

I was at his b-day party at their house and she went to the store for ice. It was around 12:00AM. The prob. is i confided in my boyfriend and b/c of this he doesn’t want to be around him. In return my cousin wonders why my bf doesn’t like her husb. and wonders why we want ever go out on any outtings with them. He hasn’t tried anything again but she did catch him with someone about a yr ago.

leedarien 22 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (4 days, 1 hour after post)

baucom197 wrote:
I was at his b-day party at their house and she went to the store for ice. It was around 12:00AM. The prob. is i confided in my boyfriend and b/c of this he doesn’t want to be around him. In return my cousin wonders why my bf doesn’t like her husb. and wonders why we want ever go out on any outtings with them. He hasn’t tried anything again but she did catch him with someone about a yr ago.

that’s a tough situation to be in. i would be honest with you cousin about why your boyfriend doesn’t like her husband. it sounds like this isn’t really a healthy relationship to be in anyway. expect that she might be mad at you for not initially telling her, but remember that you are now trying to help. if you don’t suggest she outright leave him (i suppose they’ve been together for a while, at least three years by your post) then you need to suggest they talk about it. other than that, i don’t think you need to feel guilty for not telling her and don’t let her make you feel guilty. i don’t know her, so i don’t know how she’ll react but you are a good person and trying to make it right. good luck.

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baucom197 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (4 days, 4 hours after post)

Thanks, for your suggestion. I don’t know though she has lost her brother and her father in the past five years and her mom moved away. She may have a nervous breakdown and I couldn’t stand to see that! I know honesty is always the best policy but in due time she’ll figure things out on her own. He is a good father to her twins and usually seems to be a good husband. She actually treats him bad alot of times. They have been married 6 yrs and he has been with her through thick and thin and maybe that’s why she chooses to stay d/k. Her b-day is coming up and she invited my b/f and I to go out with them and we excepted so maybe things are better off left unsaid and Kev and the hub can be friends. She would be soooo angry if i told her at this point, so I think i keep things to myself.

MrConfusion 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

I would have to say to let it go at this point. You gotta figure, had you told her when it happened, it would have been hard for her to handle but you’d keep your friendship with her. Now, after 3 years, do you think she’s going to be happy with you that you have kept this from her this long?? I think too much time has passed since the incident to bring it up now. Another question, has he been loyal to her since then? Has he tried this to you again? I know this is NO excuse, but alcohol can make normal people do very bad things. Look at them over the past 3 years and ask yourself if you think you should give them the ammuntion to destroy their marriage or just let this one slide.

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