depression help: How hard is it to completely change yourself to what you want to be when youve been sort of emotionally messed up?

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How hard is it to completely change yourself to what you want to be when youve been sort of emotionally messed up?

I have never really talked to a lot of people so i suck at that. I have never had a girlfriend so im afraid i might not know how to have a relationship. I have been put down so many times by people i dont know if i should even care for them anymore. Ive been crying so much im going numb and dont feel and sometimes dont care. If someone says something to me bad i think they want me dead or something. The world gives hate to those who nneed love the most, its just sick. idk……. im not sure how to put everything into words what im feeling.

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sum 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

Im not sure what to do =/

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

Honestly changing yourself volunteerily isn’t something that can be done overnight. Alot of time is needed and it’s something that usually happens automatically without you knowing. And also the pain you feel maybe something that will be in your heart and can’t be let go. You keep it with you as it dosen’t completely go away, however you move on because you have to.

Selfishness is the human heart, it’s natural for people to be this way. Just as natural as something has to die in order for something to live. It’s sad, yes, but this is unfortunately the world that we live in. All we can do is try to do better and make the day as good as we can alot more then yesterday, do the best we can, it’s all we can really do can’t do more. So just do what you can, it dosen’t even have to be perfect, and just because other people love and enjoy to do the wrong thing dosen’t mean that you have to. Keep being who you are, you don’t have to change.

sum 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

I dont want any feelings to die :( supposably i complain too much and dont do anything and im too unsocial and insecure and self pesimistic :(

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Neutra 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (48 minutes after post)

No, that was just an example. No you don’t think about death you think about life and the things that you will experience later. For you are still growing and encounter many obstacles in life that will help you grow as a person. If we had it all at the beginning then we wouldn’t have anything to strive for and life would have no meaning.

sum 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (57 minutes after post)

my meaning is who i love and without her i have none =/ i dont have her now but am trying to get her love by changing so i can do everything for her to make sure shes safe and happy always

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

no, you need to do it for yourself x

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (6 days, 17 hours after post)

This may not be helpful, but it is impossible to just stop thinking about something that is a constant thought.

I have the urge to kill myself, or the need to just disappear. As hard as I try to stop it, to shut it up, in the dark of the night, when I am all alone, they return.
You cannot change by yourself. Even if you try change for love, it will not be successful. You need professional help.
Personally, I am not, because not only am I stubborn I refuse to admit I need it, and will continue to fight it, but if you really need to change, the answer would be to seek assistance.

You could even have a treatable condition. Just remember, you are not alone…

Never Alone…

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sum 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

ummm cant afford it >.>

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An Unknown Location | 1 week, 3 days ago (1 month, 4 weeks after post)

Best way to change yourself completely is to focus on one aspect of yourself that you really dislike, and give yourself two weeks in which to fix that problem. To do THAT, whenever you feel yourself slipping into it, you have to forcibly STOP yourself, perhaps taking it to the extreme for a day or two, and gradually working back to normal. It’s all about self control. It works, honestly. When I first became depressed, one of the things I hated most about myself was the fact that I was so opinionated, always talking about myself and trying to convince people I was right. I decided I had to stop doing that if I ever wanted to be happy, so I didn’t talk for the entirity of the next two days, unless somebody asked me a direct question requiring no opinions. After three weeks I was able to hold back and I can now talk to people and not butt in with unnecessary comments at all. So it’s all about setting yourself a target and sticking to it, a lot like weightloss. The best part is that it’s not hard work at all. Good luck (Y)

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