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She didnt even give it a chance!

so i was with this girl for about 5-6 months and it was such a great relationship, we were so close so in love and just crazy about each other, she is 18 im 21. She is going off to university and as luck would have it its only an hour drive away so i was over the moon. Unfortunately, she said to me last week that she would be too busy for me and as much as she loves me she cant do it, i was crushed and still am. She didnt even give it a chance
Obviously when your in love and you miss some1 u act irrationally and i keep upsetting her and pushing her away not intentionally but i tell her im upset and i mss her and stuff and it upsets her. I dont wanna lose her completely.
I need help! im struggling to cope! i dont need none of this ‘time is a healer’ or ‘you will find some1′ cos ive heard this i need genuine help and advice!

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vivzofwale offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

‘time is a healer’ and ‘you will find someone’ is the genuine help and advice you NEED.

seems that you’re asking for help and advice you WANT. there’s a difference yes? :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

I see what your saying but i want advice on how to cope with it and how to not miss her and not still love her cos its killing me

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2 months, 1 week ago (43 minutes after post)

i think the ‘time is a healer’ is a loada ******** x
when i broke up wid my bf, everday my life seemed to get worse.
i got over him eventually by learning to have fun without him.
maybe you should get some mates together and go out??
alcohol helps too :P
try to stop loving her by remembering all her faults. was there anything she done particualy bad?? or did she have a bad habit that irritated you??

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

It’s horrible the way when girls say things like this or “i need some time” that we feel that we should text more or be around more.. why do guys do this!!!??

I think, as hard as it’s going to be, let her know what she’s missing…

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Roltz [#] offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
alcohol helps too :P

Emmm… it’s not! best to avoid it for a while!

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2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

^
helped me :P x
i dont mean get dependant on it, but if you go out with a couple of cocktails in hand, you generally have more laughs and its eaier to forget x

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

It’s easier to get dependant on alcohol when your using it to forget about something… because later on in life if anything happens you’d say to yourself “well alcohol solved it for me then, it should help now”, your not dealing with the situation, your just burying it..

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (23 hours, 50 minutes after post)

yeah i get it! alcohol wont help!

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2 months ago (6 days, 11 hours after post)

meh,, i’m not burying itt,, because i wont remember where to dig it up :P therefore its good :P for me anyway x fastforward: dont bother

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