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Look, if she is your friend, the only thing you should do is talk openly about it and give her support. And remember not to plan anything in the future with her.

What she has sounds like social phobia. You can read about this. Good Luck.

But if I meant alot to her then….she wouldnt have done that too me?

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But if I meant a lot to her then….she wouldn’t have done that too me?

It doesn’t matter. Her phobia over powers everything. Now, if she goes off and flies with someone else, then she has a problem with you. But, she told you that she has problems flying, and going out in public places.

Its no really about flying,shes been on planes before…she went on holiday with her family and still got homesick…Ive had problems yet Ive had to put loved ones first and try to get over them for the sake of others.Its not a complete phobia because she does go out in public places she jsut sometimes would rather stay at home.
She knew this all before she booked the holiday,and she shopped for months for stuff to take with her.

Then she’s unreliable and tell her you are not going to plan any more holiday events with her because she almost ruined yours. If I were you, I find another friend to go on holidays with. She is a cop-out. You don’t cop-out on your friends. You stick it out. She probably would have had a ball if she just got pass the home sick thing. Once there on vacation, she probably would have forgotten about home.

Yeah,thats how I feel.Im jsut worried i mean what is it really is a mental health thingy,i still think that to a certain extent its all in our heads?bluiergh i dunno i cant really talk to her atm its awkard.

It is all in our heads. That’s exactly where it’s at with her, all in her head. She needs to learn when you make plans you just can’t cancel them without a good excuse other then, “I’m going to get home sick”. That sounds too immature. Tell her to grow up if she ever tries and pulls this on you again. Make her go or nag her into going.