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I’ve felt like that before. I stopped focusing on the big stuff bc that depressed me further. Focus on the little things around you. Get all of the little things done that you’ve been putting off. That might make you feel better and able to start tackling some of the bigger tasks. Just make a list and add to it regularly. I’ve been doing it for a few weeks and I am amazed at how much I have actually accomplished. Keep trying. If you get ahead by even one thing a day, you will start noticing a difference. Good Luck.

I’ve been there, believe me. Write a list. It seems monumental at first, but pick a few small things first to gain momentum and motivation, them start on bigger things, and not in one day either. one day I started a list of 19 things. Then the page was filled. I started a new one with 24 things. and then one with 29 things on the next list and 23 things on the 4th list. I wrote everything down. I was amazed at everything that I got done. everything from registration for my vehicle to sorting clothes, to vacuuming, to dropping food off for a neighbour. ( I have two other lists too, bc they are on-going lists, LOL)

Normally I would sit at night thinking of what was messy, or what I didn’t do, but with the list, I saw progression, even if it was slow. I feel very good about it now.

Do a few external things first. It will lift your mood some so that you can work on the internal stuff. for personality, I thiink I would just try to choose how to respond. Don’t go crazy and think that you can do it all the time. try 30 minutes at a time. If you do it, smile about it. It can help you to keep going. If you slip up, no biggie. Try again. You have another half hour time frame to try out this theory many more times in the day.

Most people don’t get enough oxygen or water. Both help. Next time you feel anxious, try drinking two full glasses of water and try breathing in while counting to 5 in your head, then breathing out while counting to five. It can really help to calm us down. Just don’t do the breathing thing while you are drinking the water. It might not be a good thing :P

Well, start anywhere. I had to do it too. It’s not fun, but I sure feel more productive. That boosts my spirits. I think I need more paper though. :P

hopefully. You’ll feel good, you’ll have things done, so you will have motivation to keep going.

hi there,
its you life first of all but why do you want it to be perfect anyway.if you dont have what you love then love what you have… if you wont have negatives you would never understand how to stand against it and make it a positive. hope you get the picture. you will get all.. you cannot obstruct life go with the flow. Exercise in the morning, being around your loved ones, right thing would come with the right time only. chasing wont help… i am sure it will come to you but on the right time…. wait and watch.. GOOD LUCK and remember never never never giveup…

take care

dont forget friend nobody wants to be with someone who is always sad and a smiling face always attract others to you it brings internal natural shine on ur face.be busy if no job then something else take interest in something long lost along the way like an old hobby, something you really like doing. get a pet if you can. i am serious for this…believe me havng a pet seriously is a great way to be happy. its your life try and look if you are too introvert for others if yes then try and talk to people, be a good listener it should help.you cannot force anybody to love you but you can give them and yourself a chance and life never runs out of options..i am sure you will find someone special when the right time comes.. till then keep trying and never never never give up…. take care bye

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZI2csZ…

I don’t listen to it either, but I was going to quote a line in my head and then I remembered that it was from a song, so I went searching and voila, popped right up on google, then I youtubed it.

Are you feeling better about things today?

I’m easily distracted. It can be tough to concentrate on other things when we have other things on our minds. Have you tried thinking about a particularly calming place or event (not connected to your gf)? That could help you to feel centred and leave you feeling more focused.

Do you have any idea what either of you want to do? Could you move to do your career where she is? I think that teachers and nurses are in need everywhere. Would you be interested in trying those out?

I’d strongly advise getting your education before relocation, if that is your final decision. reason being:
~if you do it first, you can take a job right away which will help both of you, in terms or rent/mortgage.
~will lessen the likelihood of one person feeling resentful bc of being the sole bread winner.
~once you are out of the country for so long and re-enter, you would have to pay double the tuition, as a foreign student (which you would likely be by then) in order to get the same education.
I hope that this helps you.