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Please Read This And Help Me…

I really need help on this one and I am feeling suicidal:

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now…I am beyond in love with him…It is kind of difficult because he is going through an extremely hard seperation with his wife of more than a few years and friend for more than 14 years…Going in to the relationship I knew he was going to keep her in his life and I have been ok with it…But we recently found out she may have cancer and has had chemo to shrink the size of her tumor. She’s been really sick and he’s been staying at her house for a few days now…I trust him and know he won’t cheat on me…I’m just scared that they might fall back in love or that her cancer may get worse and he’ll break up with me to take care of her…I want to help him out the best I can and be here for him no matter what…I am just beyond scared and have been getting panic attacks one after the other…Can someone please help me and give me some advice…I would really appreciate it…Thank you so much!

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I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now…I am beyond in love with him…It is kind of difficult because he is going through and extremely hard seperation with his wife of more than a few years and friend for more than 14 years…Going in to the relationship I knew he was going to keep her in his life and I have been ok with it…But we recently found out she may have cancer and has had chemo to shrink the size of her tumor. She’s been really sick and he’s been staying at her house for a few days now…I trust him and know he won’t cheat on me…I’m just scared that they might fall back in love or that her cancer may get worse and he’ll break up with me to take care of her…I want to help him out the best I can and be here for him no matter what…I am just beyond scared and have been getting panic attacks one after the other…Can someone please help me and give me some advice…I would really appreciate it…Thank you so much!

Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Sorry, Hon, but wives win. Everytime.

But that’s no reason to do anything stupid. Stop making him your whole world; remember there are other fish in the sea, and take it one day at a time. If he goes back to her, move on and find someone who sees you as the one and only.

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SlightlyUnique offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

first - being suicidal isn’t going to help ANYONE, least of all you :P

second - just be there for him, like you have been - it depends on his actions - you are running scared at things that haven’t happened, and my never happen… - If you love him, just be there for him - don’t force him, as that will force him away from you…

be what he knows you are

Relationships are forged from events like this - if he comes through, still is with you and loves you AFTER this, how much stronger will you be together?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (6 hours, 35 minutes after post)

That’s a really tricky situation for you and you need wishes of love and strength from the universe! You have to be the grown up here - she is too ill and he won’t be able to think straight; but you can consciously choose to be there for him during this time. That will mean keeping yourself strong and independent and letting him react emotionally however he has to. It will mean you remebering the big picture of your loving relationship, and believeing that he will emotionally return to you after this period. Therefore, and this is the hard bit, you have to be loving without expecting anything back from him, understanding without being understood, and smiley in the face of sorrow; no acting needy allowed! He will appreciate it when he can think again.

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aku_dedd offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

being suicidal is the stupid thing
theres many people crying and begging for their life..

dont push him..
give all the best for him..

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