Family help: I’m 24 years old and I have two daughters.

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I’m 24 years old and I have two daughters.

I am also coming toward the end of a three year long probation sentence that was given to me as a result of a battery charge. I can’t get a job because of my record, so my (now ex) girlfriend left me with our two daughters. I can’t get a job, I can’t join the service to make something of myself, and I literally have nothing except the support of my mother and father.

I have numerous problems, and any route I come up with to amend these problems either leads to dead ends, or bigger problems.

while i try to keep my head up and figure what’s going to help me and my daughters in life, i’m beginning to feel very hopeless and alone. I don’t feel at home anywhere I go, and soon enough I will be evicted from my apartment and there will be nowhere to go.

I don’t want to kill myself, but I dont want to live a life that is agonizing any longer. The thought that i’m not capable enough in life hurts me more than words can describe.

I have a VERY high IQ, i’m in good shape, and I’m a hard worker with references to back it up. I don’t know why I can’t find somewhere that will take me in and let me help myself. I would be an asset anywhere I go, but all people see o any application is “felony battery - adjudication withheld”

I am not sure why i am posting this on here. I guess I just have noone to talk to and seemingly no options.

please no rsponses telling me not to kill myself. i’m not going to unless i end up homeless adn hooked on crack or something. any suggestions or other advice is welcome

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unsoshable 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

What are you good at?

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tallulah 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

Where are you from? Do you have a fixed place for you and your daughters to live? My suggestion would be to get a job - even part time, and hire a nanny so you can ease yourself into fatherhood at a pace that is easier for you to cope with and get your life back on track emotionally / financially

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (47 minutes after post)

Well its awesome that you don’t want to kill yourself. I cant believe you’ve got your two daughters all of a sudden - and at 24. I think you should be proud of yourself for a start for just wanting to do right by them.

There is nothing wrong with having the support of your parents, it takes a man to accept help like that. And unfortunately right now you do need it. First of all if you have full custody file for child financial support from your ex to help towards the expenses of raising your girls.

And with the job front - just don’t give up. Apply for anything and everything, no matter what it is. Its a hard economy to find a job in too at the minute which doesn’t help. Don’t take it too personally, when your time comes along it’ll be worth it. Just keep on going, you’ve made it this far. Good luck.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (54 minutes after post)

I AM SO SORRY. I completely read this post wrong and missed the point! Skim reading for you! In regards to the police time, just don’t give up, it’s hard enough finding a job at the moment anyway.

My uncle did time for manslaughter and even he found work, so don’t give up hope.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 29 minutes after post)

First off, getting through a 3 year probation is a huge success story. For yourself and to eventually share with potential employers, write down how you turned your behavior around from the event that caused the problem. Yes, some employers will not consider felons, but others will, they just want to know that you have addressed that problem.

Second, ask for help for you and for your girls. The first place to start is your parents. Ask them first for their advice and be open to what they say. You may also want to think about asking them to let you and your girls stay there. That’s a big favor, so be ready to live up to the responsibility of using their home. Set a timeframe for yourself (1-2 years) to get your own place again and build a life for your family. And find out what assistance is available for you and your children from the state and federal government. You probably just had a reaction to that last sentence, but you have to take care of those girls, so suck up your pride and do right by them.

Third, find a support system of some sort for yourself - there are MANY people in your situation who will be helpful to learn from, and you will also feel good about yourself when you are able to help others who are in your similar situation. These are challenging times, and you have thrown some extra bumps in there for yourself, but you are young and have the ability to work through them. In 3 years, you will be such a different person and in such a different situation that you’ll (only then) be able to appreciate the silver lining in this storm cloud you now find yourself in. All the best to you.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 10 minutes after post)

i dont have custody of my kids. I worked out something with their mother and they have a nice home to live in. unfortunately the drawback of the plan was that I am not to live with them.

girlfriends family does not like me. i am not jewish, she is.

i can see my kids anytime i want. noones being spiteful about that. I just dont have anything for myself. to be kicked when im down, someone broke into my newly (almost) empty apartment and stole my clothes, cell phone, and my medication.

to answer another post, i’m good at everything I do. I’m athletic, i’m very smart, great at math, high vocabulary, great with people, etc.

i just dont know what to do. i am not throwing a pity party as i know everyone is having a hard time with a lot of the same things as me, many who have done nothing wrong, i just feel useless and i dont understand how a first offense could possibly ruin my life like this.

anyway

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Ditzy 40 #
Ventura, CA, US | 2 months ago (2 days after post)

Dude. Sounds like you are down on your luck lately. Sorry man.

I am glad that you have visit rights with your children. Some times those rights can get pretty ugly. Count your blessings here, for this is one in disguise.

I would investigate into some kind of rehabilitation services offered by colleges and/or police services. I know - scary. They probably have a group of people who are training and helping place previously convicted people into jobs. Sounds fairy tale but surely there is some kind of group that can help you.

Try and perhaps get some qualifications behind you. Make the “you” shine out, rather than the “conviction”. You said you are smart, after-all :)

I would also get all the locks changed on your apartment. You don’t want them coming back.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (2 days after post)

live for your kids.
keep trying to find a job - it will happen, just dont give up

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