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So thers’s this guy.
About a year ago we became really good friends and then started to like each other, to the very obvious point where everyone thought we were going out. However, we never quite made it so official, as I am not allowed to have a boyfriend. Still, we carried on in a fairly couple-ish manner: talking for hours on the phone, stupid nicknames, holding hands, kissing on the cheek, etc. Although both of us wanted more, we never really pushed it, so I assumed he was at least content with our arrangment.
Then about two months ago, he breaks some strange news to me: he hasn’t “liked me like that” for months. His consoling words were something akin to “But it’s okay - we were never more than friends anyway”. I thought this odd considering I had been his girlfriend for all intents and purposes for a while now, and his behavior had not reflected any change in these feelings. His reason? He felt he was trying too hard to develop a physical relationship with me and he didn’t want to deal with the tension anymore. I offered to kiss him then and there and he answered “No, you’ll only feel bad about it” and promised we’d still be good friends.
Weeks prior to this ‘break up’ he had gotten into this nasty habit of constantly trying to make me jealous, and in our new state (or, according to him, already existing state) of ‘just friends’, began going on and on about this girl (who is two years younger than us) who could afford to go to fancy shows with him, and asked him to spend the weekend with her family in Boston (things I have not been able to do since my family does not have much money and my parents are strict about letting me go out). The clincher was when he asked me to meet up with him and brought her along, bragging that the two of them were going out that night. When I confronted him about flaunting his new arm candy, he protested, saying that he was not trying to “get with” this girl and that if I felt jealous I should just get over it, because I technically I had had no claim on him in the first place (since we weren’t officially ever going out. Nice time to point that out)..
We didn’t really speak for the next month. When we did reunite we began very awkwardly and he acted distant, as if he had tried to forget how well we knew each other. Since then we have slowly been returning to normal, but there is still some odd moments. He said I was the only person he was ever physically comfortable with, yet now he flinches when I touch him. He makes a point of not answering to his old nickname (which isn’t anything stupid like “honeybunch” or whatever, I just call him Jack) or calling me by mine. And he does his best not to contact me outside of school. My friends say it still seems like he likes me and that it looks like the two of us are flirting the same as ever, and sometimes I almost believe it. But then he’ll start to act really jerkish or distant, or start bringing up other girls simply because he knows it bothers me. I’m trying to make it look like I don’t care, but - well, I do care. A lot. I still love him and if he would just admit he wanted me too I’d commit to him fully.
But could he still like me? Or is he just messing with me? Is it worth it to try and work my way back into his heart?
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