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Hi there

It sounds like you’re still clogged up with grief. You didn’t even have time to grieve the loss of your mother when you lost something else… your sense of trust in your own judgment (choosing a fiancee), your sense of how the world should work (that good people deserve to succeed), and your fantasy of the future.

It’s essential that you invite your grief in for a chat. As long as you keep it out it will keep banging on the doors trying to get in. It will not let you ignore it.

Write letters to your mother, to your fiancee. You will never send them. But write them. Express your denial, your anger, your regrets, your depression.

Read the book “On grief and grieving” by Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross. It speaks right to you as if the author knows you personally.

When we suffer a loss like you have, our natural reaction is to retreat and curl up in a ball. But we only hurt ourselves when we do that. When we let the outside world and its dangers and the insecurities of its people get us down, we only deny ourselves the richness that life can give us.

The world truly is out there only for those who overcome their fears enough to taste it. Be one of those people. I know you can do it.