should i send a hate facebook message to my ex cuz i just found out he was cheateing on me? - Help.com

Hate is a negative emotion and acting on it will bring you down more than it will lift you up.

I can understand how hurt you must feel.

Best thing here would be to write him an email or a note but “hold it back” a couple of days before you send it.

In it, just say something straightforward, clear cut and assertive (not agressive). It might go something like this:

“It’s come to my attention that whilst we were dating, you were seeing another girl. I do not intend to make an issue of this. I just wanted to say that I now realise that ending our relationship was entirely the correct thing to do. I wish you well in your future but suggest that you consider the meaning of trust and honesty before you end up breaking another girl’s heart. Enough said now, hope you are well. Love to the cat and the goldfish. “

Now, whether you send it or not depends on how you feel in a couple of days. Never act in haste. If you DO send it, don’t open any mail and don’t answer any calls. Make it your final word.

If you don’t send it, congratulations. You will have realised that actually… he probably doesn’t deserve even that amount of effort any more.

Why would you do that after two months? It’s over and done with. Let it go. The more you harbor those ill feelings, the more they’re gonna eat you up. He will get his sooner or later. But, you should forget him and leave it alone. Don’t bring back those hatred feelings or you won’t be able to sleep even less.

It’s not worth your time or your effort.

Yeah let it all hang out… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgVMMd…

agree with all of the above… Do right that letter to get it out of your system.. but dont send it.
Let karma get him hun.

WRITE the letter and listen to my song…. let it all hang out.

Belle Latina wrote:
but i always do that, i hold everything inside and then it kills me not having said what i really wanted to say, then when i realized that i should ave said something, THEN is too late cuz he is happily married and i would be causing conflict in a marriage.

now, im not saying he is going to marry that other girl but that exactly happened to me. years after that happened to me i regreted not telling him all i wanted to say.

it is already too late its 2 months AFTER, its better to just move on there’s nothing to say anyway

You have to learn to let go. Let it all go! Those who live in the past can never come to terms with the present! All that crap is in the past. Flush it down the toilet and let the sewer system take it to swampland where you never want to be anyway! Let it go!

You need to worry about your own future. Your bad past is where it should be, in the past and as such you should do everything in your mighty power to forget it. Build on what you have now. Let it go!

sometimes revenge, or something like this works. it makes you feel better. and for you, it obviously has. so yay:)
now, move on, get over the dickwad, and be happy.

He sounds like a tosser. And you don’t want to be associated with a tosser.

Also, I’ve had enough relationships to know that the next person that comes along is always hotter, smarter and funnier than the last.

craepho wrote:
I’ve had enough relationships to know that the next person that comes along is always hotter, smarter and funnier than the last.

That is true!!

Its good you let it out! I did the same thing, but kinda face to face. I dragged him to this place where we could be alone and i screamed screamed screamed at him and slammed him against a tree ‘My best friend how dare you you you you…’ etc that and calling them names with the rest of my friends. Its amazing the difference! i honestly let go so much, we’re friends now. Not that close or anything but we hang out on occasion and my best friend is still my best friend: i forgave her.

Weirdness xD

But i think you did the right thing. He cheated on you, and you let him know his actions were unacceptable. He will unblock you, but not now. Give it time trust me :)

WELL DONE! Stay strong now hun and dont look back!