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When me and my boyfriend first started dating, he had a best friend that was a girl - they had been friends since childhood. I really didn’t care at first - they went to concerts without me early in the relationship, etc but I wasn’t insecure about it at all. Well, as time went on, she started being pretty mean to me. She met me twice, and completely talked over me both times. She offered to introduce me at a party, then “accidentally” forgot my name as she did it… Has talked bad about me, and she always pronounces my name wrong (this was up until we were together 4+ months). When she saw my boyfriend, she would tell him she loves him (insinuating as friends of course) and have very little clothes on (which my bf said was unusual for her). This of course made me defensive and question her motives, and I therefore discussed this with my boyfriend. He agreed and had a major talk with her where they got in a fight and have not talked in maybe 6 months.
He has since admitted to me that he thinks she has started to have feelings for him - he thinks she likes him and that is why she is acting mean all of a sudden. She has not acted this way with any other of his gfs although I am the most serious of them. I know that at one time when they were growing up, he had feelings for her but nothing ever happened - I didn’t worry about that either because I have best guy friends and I understand growing up that happens. But I hear that before me, they would go out to dinner, movies, etc where he would pay but she always dated other people. He has told me not to worry and reassured me many times that he wants ME and I have it “on lock,” but lately I can’t help but feel a little insecure. With time it has gotten worse, and I guess inside I am afraid they will discuss her feelings, and he will leave me for her. I have no basis for this except to imagine what it must feel like for him. I know it must be hard for her to see me with him, but honestly, she has had years to get him. I’ve brought it up to my bf many times, but its hard not to talk bad about the girl as she was so mean to me and is making her feelings obvious. I think perhaps she doesn’t like him but just likes the attention and wants what she can’t have. Not sure if this is completely an insecurity problem on my part or a legitimate concern???
**We are all in our mid twenties if its any help….
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