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I dont understand why my husband has such a hard time expressing what he feels for me…

. Whenever I try to have a conversation with him about what we feel for each other its like “annoying” to him. Perhaps I should explain how we hooked up. I met him 1 yr after he arrieved from his country. He left a gf of 3 yrs. we’ve been together since. He broke up with her like almost a year he was with me. we’ve been together ever since. (4yrs now). He use to tell me he did not love her. Is it possible to be with a person for such a long time and not love that person?? I worry about how he feels for me because I am soooo diferent to the girls in his country. Im so confused… She is gorgeous and skinny. im the total opposite. I dont understand how he left her for me. he wont talk about it…

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Time after marriage people change their feelings sometimes but it dosen’t mean that he dosen’t love you anymore. It just means that the love you two felt before has to be rekindled someway. Find what he likes and try to find something similar to that when you two fell in love and work the two together to bring out the romance.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

You don’t understand why he can’t express his feelings?

He probably can’t understand why you are so insecure.

Men and women communicate differently. Get yourself “Men, women & relationships” by John Gray and “When good men behave badly” by David Wexler.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Men don’t do feelings… you want to talk about that with your mom and girlfriends. Men don’t cry either just in case you were wondering.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

Danger red flag!! Never go out with some one who is in a relationship with someone else. You have no control over your boyfriend or anyone else, unless you are paying them. I am a bit hard in my replies, but it is the truth. You have fallen in love with you partner and all negativity to this will be questioned.
The best answer I could give to this is; look after yourself, youn are special the product of selection (all the science stuff) If you are good people just love you.

Good luck

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Everyone is different. Just allow yourself to feel happy. He chose you.

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Lancaster, PA, US | 2 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 49 minutes after post)

thank you everyone for the support, its true he did choose me. and i dont understand why I am so insecure. I guess I just needed a bit of reasurrance…

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