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How can I get my head straight and think more clearly?

I seriously am having trouble concentrating on anything and i get sooo stressed out I cant deal with things to make my life better because the effort is depressing in itself. I feel so stupid like I cant even comprehend information i try and take in. I just need to have a normal life, figure out what I have to do to get the right job, get a better social life, get out more, get the love of the one i love to be returned because she means so much to me and i cant stand thinking if anything were to happen with her because i wasnt able to be there for her. =/

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sum changed the tags on this post: they were "confusion, life, college" 2 months ago.

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sum changed the tags on this post: they were "confusion, life, college, Love, anxiety, sadness, work, jobs, careers, school, university, girls, friends, Headache, heartache" 2 months ago.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (3 days, 11 hours after post)

It doesn’t work that way. You can’t say to yourself “If I just had ____ then everything would be alright.” It won’t. There’d still be something wrong. So what’s the point on dwelling on what you don’t have? The fact is you find things stressful. Just because other people have already found ways to deal with it or have a personality that deals well with stress doesn’t mean you can. That doesn’t make you abnormal at all. It means yes that you have to work on reducing your stress but getting upset about the fact that it doesn’t come easy won’t help you any. So accept it and start helping yourself.

I don’t know what you’ve already tried, can you help me out? I have some suggestions but I don’t want to give advice that you’ve heard and tried that hasn’t worked.

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Help me with: Unemployed because I can’t handle anything remotely stressful, finding myself doing things without thinking, walking
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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (5 days, 7 hours after post)

Ive attempted working out, eating better, taking vitamins, getting sunlight, tried going out for a walk but i just felt lonely, drank tea, smiled forcing myself to feel fake happy, listened to music, watched comedies, attempted repeating things to myself that are good but i cant seem to always belive what i say to myself….. well you get the idea

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

Change some things in your life. Stay healthy, if the one you love isn’t returning the love to you, that would be a good place to start with the change. You can live with out her/him. Realize that, live your life knowing that. And eventually, unless your partner changes…you will leave. Your head will clear up, opportunities will arrise. Success or failure in life depends on the choices you make. The choice to stay in a f’d up relationship…is not a good one. Make your choices wisely. What is the right thing to do?? Read up on depression, and try to find a good doctor.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

Im far beyond depressed.. im legitimately sad =/

no i live for love so im not going to forget about her

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

i care about her a lot and would feel to blame if shes ever sad :(

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