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I am in serious need of advise…
.HELP!!
I have been married for 4 years now and for the last 2 years my wife, who is younger than me has had a VERY serious drinking problem and for the most part is a non functional alcoholic. She has not worked in the last 19 months except for one job she was at for about 3 months, she quit and than a second really good job where they were going to assist in school and training but she quit after 8 days. she went in rehab for 3 weeks inpatient about 14 months ago and managed to stay sober for about 2 months after that but started drinking again. Sense than she has gotten worse and is not respondent at all to my begging, pleas, threats, explanations, etc… In the last 12 months she was involved in a hit and run accident (liquor store parking lot hit a parked car) which cost 3,000.00 in legal fees. She has destroyed about 11,000.00 worth of home furnishings from peeing on everything from our bed to couches and knocking a flat screen off the wall. I manged to get her into counseling (for mental health - co occurring issues) and while at the doctors she had a seizure related to withdraw. I took her to the emergency room which was only a few minutes away and the admitted her for “alcohol addiction” after spending 2 days in the hospital we were informed that she was being placed in a involuntary status…which was a good thing. They decided to transfer her to a inpatient facility that could treat co occurring problems but mostly treated for the alcoholism. She was there for 20 days before being released. Come to find out she “got into trouble” while there for inappropriate behavior with a male patient. She said that some guy was “holding her hand while she was shaking and having a difficult time related to medication” I am not too sure if that is the truth or not because she did cheat on me a couple of years ago which we have tried to get past, but I am requesting a copy of all of her records with the hopes something was documented but that is another issue for the moment. She started drinking here and there about 11 days after getting out and refuses to go to AA. Now 7 weeks after getting out of her 2nd rehab stay she is drunk again and has been drinking for the last few week. While she was in rehab this second time I purchased a new mattress which cost 900.00 and it is ruined…again. She refuses to go to AA, she refuses to go into IOP, she talks about getting help, not drinking, etc but nothing is happening. I do not want to divorce her but I also cannot live the rest of my life this way. It is destroying her, me and our marriage. I am quickly coming to the realization that there needs to be some separation in hopes that she will get her life on track and possibly our marriage….I just do not know how to do that. The house that we live in is in my name and has been for the last 17 years, I have solely paid the mortgage and am not concerned about the items in the house, most are ruined anyway. She continues with choices to be a non functional alcoholic, will not get a job though for the past 18 months bring this up about once a week. She has no friends or family in the locale area. All of her family is out of state and they don’t know what to do any more. Bottom line I am not leaving the house for legal and principal reasons….how do I get her out of the house?
HELP!!
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